When I came out to my friends my life changed. They accepted me fully and I feel like a huge stone was removed from my chest, like I can finally breathe. I’m planning on telling my parents next. Wish me luck! (F/12/Pansexual)
Story #1663
When I came out to my mom this morning, I made her play a guessing game until she guessed, “Do you have a girlfriend?” I stood there and smiled and she said okay, but told me I was going to change my mind someday. She also told me that there are so many people around that are part of the LGBTQ+ community around us, even our neighbors! I’m just waiting to tell my dad. (F/11/Pan)
Story #1662
When I came out to my mom as pan about a year ago, I was terrified, even though I knew she’s always been very open to everyone’s opinions and sexualities. I was so anxious that I messaged her instead of telling her face to face. I just messaged her that I had a girlfriend and that I thought I’m pansexual. She, as always, was very open about it and she never talked to me about it again. She hasn’t even treated me differently.
Story #1644
When I came out my parents found my phone and read my text messages with my best friend. We were talking about being Pan (me) and Bi and homophobic kids in our classes, and my parents say I have to talk with them about it tomorrow. I am kinda freaking out right now. I am really angry with them about going through my texts because that was a real invasion of my privacy. That was supposed to me my thing, deciding if and when and how to tell them. (F/12/Pan)
Story #1628
When I came out, I had stayed up the night before writing my mom and dad a letter that I would give them before I went to school. However, I didn’t know where to put the letter so she would see it… and when I went to tie my shoes I dropped it on the ground. She then proceeded to ask me what it was and I stammered on my words, handing it to her and trying to run out the door. She said, “No, I want to talk about whatever is in this with you. Let me do your hair.” There I was with my mom, who was curling my hair at the time, telling her that I love all kinds of people. It’s been three years since then, and she and my father are super supportive! (F/16/Pan)
Story #1617
When I came out, I was 15 and it was to my girlfriends. They took it really well and that gave me the eventual courage to come out to my mom at 16. She said I was confused because of the company I kept, but she accepted it. I still feel a sense of dysphoria, but I’ll survive because I’m proud to be a demi+pan!
~A Pan-tastic Girl
Story #1583
When I came out, I was scared that my friends would judge me. They knew about my sexuality and gender identity, but being polyamorous isn’t normally socially acceptable. But the friends I told were super supportive! (15/Pan/nb/polyam)
Story #1571
When I came out to two of my best friends, I wasn’t even planning on doing it. One of them is a lesbian, and the other one knew about this already, and convinced the first friend to come out to me on a whim. I hugged her and came out as pansexual, and my other friend came out as bi. Still not out to my parents, but out to a few people at my school. (Non-binary/14/Demiromantic Pansexual)
Story #1545
When I came out to my two best friends one was shocked. The other was through text so it was hard to say but he seemed nice. Other than that I’m still scared to tell anyone else. (Genderfluid/14/Pansexual)
Story #1518
When I came out as agender and pansexual, only one of my friends accepted me for who I was. The rest of my “friends” just said, “Eww!” or “I know you’re lying” or they laughed and made fun of me… (Agender/11/Pansexual)