When I came out I was 12 and I told my older sister and was extremely nervous. I wasn’t sure how she was going to react but was pretty sure she would be supportive. I texted her a bi coming out meme and told her I’m bi. She was super shocked and came into my room and hugged me, and told me she was proud of me for having the courage to tell her. She agreed to not tell our parents, at least not yet. I texted my friend (who already knew and supports me) and she was also very excited for me. It made me so happy and I hope you all have supportive friends and family too. Good luck to all those who are thinking of coming out! (F/13/Bi/ace?)
Story #2580
When I came out as aroace it was completely unintentional. A lot of my friends and I were talking during break about one of my friends’ unhealthy obsession with the moon and another one of my friends explained it as such: “If the moon was a girl, he’d marry her.” To which I replied, “Too bad, most moongoddesses are aroace.” (I had that one quote from OSP stuck in my head.) When somebody else asked what aroace was, the second friend explained it really quickly with ending: “So, basically me.” I was all, “You’re aroace?! I’m aroace!” And the friend with the moon obsession was all like, “I’m just ace 🙂 ” It was the greatest day of my life. So that’s how I came out to all of my school friends (and some of them came out with me). (F/17/Aroace)
Story #2569
When I came out, I think I had known since I was around 14-15. I initially came out as ace, and now lesbian. I had a minor crush on one of my classmates – who I didn’t know was bi at the time – and one day at a sleepover, we were playing truth or dare with my friend group. And then the dreaded question came up: Do you like anyone? I took a deep breath, and told them I had a crush on [the girl] and that I was gay. Everyone was super supportive. It has been about 2 years since then, and I am forever grateful for my friends. We always insult each other jokingly and they have been there for me like family, even when my own parents weren’t. They asked me if I was planning to come out to my parents and I said no. My parents are super homophobic and transphobic. They are traditional and even if I was straight, they wouldn’t want me dating anyone not of my race (I’m South Indian btw). I am happy with my identity and the things I’ve learned about myself, and my parents can’t change that. (F/16/Lesbian/ace)
Story #2558
When I came out I was 23, my mom and dad were shocked but they quickly supported me, I was bisexual and identified as genderfluid; now, I identify as bisexual, asexual, and non-binary. I hope everything goes well to my closeted friends. Be you, and don’t try to fit in the box! (Non-binary/25/Bisexual/asexual)
Story #2549
When I came out to my parents, they were just neutral. At the time, I was bisexual and they were completely fine with it. My friends supported me so much, it felt like a dream. However, over time, I lost attraction and I didn’t feel any sexual attraction to people. I was worried sick because I felt odd and alien-like, so I searched up what I was feeling and turns out I’m asexual, but I didn’t feel at ease with that, since romance wasn’t kind my thing. After a little bit of digging, I found out I’m aroace. My family and parents supported me just as well when I was bi. (M/16/Aroace)
Story #2547
When I came out to my parents in middle school as just gay (they don’t know terms) they were somewhat supportive, but my dad was not sure. He went on a walk with me and basically said you’re probably not gay, because you are just desperate to fit in and your friends are gay so you think you are. I believed him, and so during lockdown I went back to “being straight” and then I had to re-come out to myself in high school. I now understand myself more and I have come out to a few close friends, who have all been super supportive of me. They are even helping me with my crush right now!!! I am going to ask her to prom 🙂 (F/17/Biromantic asexual)
Story #2534
When I came out, two of my friends knew that I was bi and one of them knew I was trans at the time. I created this “about me” test and the winner got money. I let my two friends take it first, and then THOUGHT I turned off the setting after that said “reveal correct answers”, but I obviously didn’t. So, I let my homophobic Christian friend take the quiz and WHAT DO YOU KNOW he submitted it and on the question that said, “What is your biggest secret?”, it said in big letters: “YOU’RE BI” and “YOU’RE NOT A GIRL”. I was so embarassed, I told him some of the answers were fakes the trick him but now every time I play a game with my friends, one of my friends always puts in as my name: “KJ LOVES AMITY” (from The Owl House, also, my fictional crush, another question on the quiz.) Well, there went my shot at my homophobic friend believing me! (M/12/Biromantic/asexual/FtM)
Story #2529
When I came out a month or two ago, I told two friends of mine that my pronouns were he/she and thought nothing more of it. Then, a little more than a week ago, one of those friends referred to me as ‘he’ in front of some other friends, and those friends asked me my pronouns and I said he/she and told them I was genderfluid. We talked about our own gender journeys (pretty much all my friends are queer and a couple of them aren’t cis) and it was super chill and I felt super good. I’m so happy to have such amazing and supportive friends and I hope you have a great day! (Genderfluid/14/Aroace)
Story #2528
When I came out I was 11. At that time I identified as pansexual and had posted about it online. My parents, being overprotective, read it. Later, at a sleepover one September 15, my (lesbian) friend dared me to officially come out, as my parents hadn’t said anything on the topic. We made a little sign saying “am pansexual. – [deadname]”. (Transmasc/genderfluid/nonbinary/Pomoromantic/asexual/aro-spec)
Story #2512
When I came out, it was to my parents. They had known I was questioning my sexuality, but they didn’t exactly like it. I had made comments about me being aroace, but every time had felt like I was being judged for bringing it up so often (actually about once a month — and I’m aroace year round lol), and that my parents didn’t approve. I finally had another comment, and afterward I told my mom that I felt like I was not allowed to talk about my sexuality. They had made it clear that aroace was approvable because I’m not attracted to girls, but still not as good as straight (little do they know I’m pan oriented). (Non-binary trans masc/15/Trans non-binary gender-fluid pan-oriented aroace)