When I came out, I was not only kicked out but was also talked crap about. I came out to my parents as trans and they were furious. My mom called me a disgrace and that she should’ve never had my aunt, who is also trans, to babysit me when I was 10. My dad shook his head and told me to pack my belongings. I was heartbroken and I moved into my best friend’s apartment. Two or three weeks later, I found out my mom was talking crap about me to my Aunt Leslie (the trans one). Since my aunt loved me for who I am, she called me and told me everything will be OK. Afterwards, I started to go on hormones, which made me moody and when my mom called me to apologize, I screamed at her. But that was two years ago and now everything is OK. (I don’t talk to my parents anymore but I still chat with my aunt.) (Female/MtF/19/Straight)
Story #2590
When I came out the first time, I told my mom I was bi, because she’d asked if was gay, and I wasn’t ready to tell her, so I panicked. When I got to college, I finally told her I was a lesbian, but she questioned it because she didn’t think I’d ever been with anyone sexually, so how could I possibly know? I’d always been pretty masculine, but it was the mid-90s, and I’d come from a long line of tomboys who’d turned out straight, so she didn’t think I was any different. There was little info about trans-people readily available at the time — even Google was brand new! — and I was almost out of college before I ever met a trans-person, or understood that there were people who felt like me, who’d spent their entire lives trying to figure out why nothing ever felt right. I married a woman when I was 23, but it would be a few more years before I’d hit a wall and realize I needed to transition for my sanity’s sake. My wife and I have been together for over 20 years, my family has been 1000% supportive, and transitioning saved my life. (FtM/44/Pan)
Story #2583
When I came out, it was fairly hard. I was born a girl and everyone considered me a girl. Compared to the other preppy girls at my school, I look like something that came from a dumpster. However, when I first got my period, everything in me broke. Growing breasts felt like a barrier building up to prevent me from trying to be my true self. My mom found out about me being trans when my homophobic sociology teacher told her on open house. My mom was kind of supportive and my dad is completely neutral on the topic. However, my teacher still disrespects me and once he separated me from doing a group activity. I was sad but I hoped that my fellow queers won’t have to go through this. (FtM/Transmasc/14/Bisexual)
Story #2575
When I came out I knew I was trans and had always been a boy. I had a bag of safety emergency stuff, and my mom found it and looked through it and it had info on me being trans. She kinda outed me to my dad ASAP (I’m a little upset). We talked that evening all together, and I kinda had to come out. It went overall well; my parents are still learning and had to challenge everything I said (quite annoying), but they love me and it is working out. Good luck to you all!!!! (Transgender [FtM]/13/Gay/bisexual)
Story #2566
When I came out, I was outed. It was pretty sh*tty. My mother found out by reading my journal and then screamed at me saying that I’m not a man trapped in a woman’s body and that I’m born a woman, will live as a woman and die a woman. Then she cried telling me to not have sex change surgery when I become an adult. This happened when I was 13, I think. I even had a nightmare recently based on it where my mom grabbed the journal and carved “you are a woman” and she carved it on the table too and held a knife to my neck saying, “You’re a woman.” My mom told my dad during my tucute nonbinary phase that I didn’t ‘feel’ like a girl and he said, “You’re turning into a lady”. I hate my life. I wish I had the right body. I wish gender dysphoria never existed. (M/14 almost 15)
Story #2564
When I came out, it was through text to my dad. I had been “out” to my friends in school, but never came out until that day. I was on vacation with my mom and built up the courage to send a coming out text to my dad. He was supportive, and we spoke more about it when I came back, but I made the mistake of saying I wasn’t bothered by my birth name and she/her (true) so now I have to build up the courage (and grow an year older, he said I was probably too young to be sure, which hurt a little, but he’s trying) to ask him to call me by my new name and pronouns and get a binder lol (Demiboy trans FtM/13/Omni/demiromantic)
Story #2555
When I came out I was 16 or 17 my parents were super religious and conservative, and I never felt like a girl. All my friends were a bit edgy about me being trans and being bisexual; that was because I went to a Christian school where there were only a few queers. The only one who supported me was my teacher, because she had two sons: one was trans, like me, and the other was pansexual. The teacher was very kind and she was like a second mom to me. I transitioned and received top surgery two and a half years ago and kept my female organs because I wanted to hold a child. (Transgender Male/FtM/24/Bisexual)
Story #2553
When I came out early 2020 I was about 14 years old. I had told my aunt. She was not fond of the idea; she didn’t think it was right for a male to transition to a female. I have had it rough even till this day. It hurts really bad but I know in my heart that I can overcome this pain and I will do it by myself like I have been. It’s so rare for trans girls where I am from to really care about me but I’ll survive (F/17/Transgender)
Story #2543
When I came out a few years ago, I knew that I was male, but out of fear I convinced myself that my feelings weren’t valid and that I was saying I was male just for the attention. This fear was reenforced when I came out to my mother (at the time identifying as non-binary for the previously mentioned reasons). I told her how I felt more comfortable dressing in a suit and tie and how being referred to as a girl caused me a lot of anxiety and depression because this was not who I knew myself to be. She told me that God gave her a girl and that God never told her to let me wear a suit and be like a boy. Since then, I’ve come out as a trans male and she’s slowly becoming a little more accepting, but I still feel nervous when talking to her about anything gender related because what she said to me all those years ago is still with me today. (M/17/Bisexual)
Story #2534
When I came out, two of my friends knew that I was bi and one of them knew I was trans at the time. I created this “about me” test and the winner got money. I let my two friends take it first, and then THOUGHT I turned off the setting after that said “reveal correct answers”, but I obviously didn’t. So, I let my homophobic Christian friend take the quiz and WHAT DO YOU KNOW he submitted it and on the question that said, “What is your biggest secret?”, it said in big letters: “YOU’RE BI” and “YOU’RE NOT A GIRL”. I was so embarassed, I told him some of the answers were fakes the trick him but now every time I play a game with my friends, one of my friends always puts in as my name: “KJ LOVES AMITY” (from The Owl House, also, my fictional crush, another question on the quiz.) Well, there went my shot at my homophobic friend believing me! (M/12/Biromantic/asexual/FtM)