When I came out as asexual I was 12, and all my friends were bi/gay/lesbian so I knew it would be fine. So I went up to my best friend (who’s gay) and said, “I’m asexual.” She acted really shocked and said being asexual was a medical illness and you had to be “diagnosed” at a hospital. Then a year or so later I came out as non-binary and my friends still didn’t believe me. However, I met a new group consisting of enbys, aces and gays and now we’re all besties! (NB/14/Asexual/demiromantic/biromantic)
Story #2246
When I came out, I was seriously considering my gender identity for the first time, and decided I’d ask a cousin for advice. She said to “Go for it!” and then I went and wrote an entire page about my experiences questioning my gender and sent it to my discord (ThatOneAwkwardSnake#1093) and was met with tons of support from all my best friends, irl and out. Still haven’t come out to anyone else and the cousin I came out to first still thinks of me as “lesbian” which makes me uncomfy as it has a feminine connotation, and even though I’ve told her I prefer gay, she still uses lesbian. I don’t know if she understands non-binary. (Non-binary/11/Gay/trans FtNB)
Story #2241
When I came out to my older brother, he thought I was joking at first: he said I was too picky when it came to guys, and asked me what my type was, and I said, “Women.” He hugged me after and told me he accepted me and would keep my secret… and then started joking about it in front of my mom and making references to lesbian sex whenever he talked about me. I told him that I’d just been confused a couple months later. Sometimes, it’s just not the right time, and that’s ok. (Nonbinary/21/Gay/genderqueer/transgender)
Story #2219
When I came out I texted my friend right before I went to bed (probably not the best idea). I then woke up to the best text from her saying she’d try her best to get my pronouns and new name right but it would just take some time to get used to. I was so happy and almost cried because I was scared I’d lose my best friend ever. (Non-binary/11/Asexual/bisexual)
Story #2210
When I came out to my friend he immediately accepted me, and soon he told me that he was trans. It is great knowing that you have someone who understands. Coming out to him really brought us closer together and I am so happy I told him. (Non-Binary/12/Pansexual)
Story #2207
When I came out to my sister as Nonbinary, she accepted me right away and asked me for my pronouns. I told her the pronouns were they/them. She told me she could help me with the money for bottom surgery, and I’ve been thankful ever since! (Nonbinary/demiboy/12/Bisexual/pansexual/asexual)
Story #2200
When I came out, my Christian mom was so confused and unaccepting. I told her that I feel like I’m not female or male. She still uses she/her pronouns, when I asked her to use they/them. (Non-binary/12/Pansexual/enby)
Story #2197
When I came out to my parents, I didn’t come out, I was forced out. My mum and I don’t have the best relationship, so we don’t talk very much. Because of this my mum doesn’t trust me all that much. Well, one day my mum decided that I have to be hiding something so took my phone and went through it, reading EVERYTHING. She found out about my girlfriend and my identity. The first thing she did was kick me out, then, after about an hour, she let me back in. We talked — meaning she yelled at me — for about two hours and that was that. It was rarely mentioned again apart from the occasional ‘well-meaning’ homophobic comment. (Non-binary/16/Lesbian asexual)
Story #2190
When I came out to my friends as pansexual, it was in my groupchat from middle school just after the COVID quarantine began. When I told them, everybody was like, “Oh, you’re gay? Me too!” So now I have a groupchat of the gays. I just recently came out to them as non-binary and they’re really supportive. I’m going to a Catholic high school this year and there’s not a very LGBTQ+ friendly community, so I’m very thankful to have some supportive friends that I can talk to. I still haven’t come out to my parents, but I came out to my sister and my cousins earlier this year (only as pan, not as enby yet). (Non-binary/Pansexual)
Story #2189
When I came out I was scared and felt no one would understand me, but when I finally did my best friend came out too! School came and I told everyone I went by Alex and they/he pronouns. I just recently came out to my stepparent and am very close to coming out to my mom. I have a boyfriend right now who is very supporting. I’m slowly cutting out toxic people and coming out to everyone else. (Demiboy/nonbinary/14/Pansexual)