When I came out I realized how misunderstood enbies are. I had to explain almost every aspect of my gender identity and sexuality to my parents and friends, and reassure them that we actually exist. There are just so few of us, apparently, that not even close to everyone knows the basics of our gender (or anti-gender) self-concepts. Stay strong, and don’t let “normal society” get to you. Just be yourself, be modest, and be kind. (Non-binary agender/15/Pansexual)
Story #2251
When I came out to my best friend over an email, I was so scared. I thought she wouldn’t understand and say it was impossible. Turns out it went well. It took her a while to adjust to my new name and pronouns but she’s extremely supportive and respectful about it. (Non-binary/15/Bisexual)
Story #2250
When I came out, I first came out to my two closest friends (at the time) and they were both pretty okay with it. One of them didn’t really know what it meant to be non-binary and I’m not sure if she took me seriously or not. We don’t really talk anymore. With my other friend I first came out to, we have been friends since we were 4 and we’re very close. However she doesn’t really like talking about this kind of stuff for some reason, and even though I’ve told her on multiple occasions that I prefer they/them, she still uses she/her to refer to me. Whether or not she just forgets or isn’t accepting of me, I really don’t know. (Non-binary)
Story #2247
When I came out as asexual I was 12, and all my friends were bi/gay/lesbian so I knew it would be fine. So I went up to my best friend (who’s gay) and said, “I’m asexual.” She acted really shocked and said being asexual was a medical illness and you had to be “diagnosed” at a hospital. Then a year or so later I came out as non-binary and my friends still didn’t believe me. However, I met a new group consisting of enbys, aces and gays and now we’re all besties! (NB/14/Asexual/demiromantic/biromantic)
Story #2246
When I came out, I was seriously considering my gender identity for the first time, and decided I’d ask a cousin for advice. She said to “Go for it!” and then I went and wrote an entire page about my experiences questioning my gender and sent it to my discord (ThatOneAwkwardSnake#1093) and was met with tons of support from all my best friends, irl and out. Still haven’t come out to anyone else and the cousin I came out to first still thinks of me as “lesbian” which makes me uncomfy as it has a feminine connotation, and even though I’ve told her I prefer gay, she still uses lesbian. I don’t know if she understands non-binary. (Non-binary/11/Gay/trans FtNB)
Story #2241
When I came out to my older brother, he thought I was joking at first: he said I was too picky when it came to guys, and asked me what my type was, and I said, “Women.” He hugged me after and told me he accepted me and would keep my secret… and then started joking about it in front of my mom and making references to lesbian sex whenever he talked about me. I told him that I’d just been confused a couple months later. Sometimes, it’s just not the right time, and that’s ok. (Nonbinary/21/Gay/genderqueer/transgender)
Story #2219
When I came out I texted my friend right before I went to bed (probably not the best idea). I then woke up to the best text from her saying she’d try her best to get my pronouns and new name right but it would just take some time to get used to. I was so happy and almost cried because I was scared I’d lose my best friend ever. (Non-binary/11/Asexual/bisexual)
Story #2210
When I came out to my friend he immediately accepted me, and soon he told me that he was trans. It is great knowing that you have someone who understands. Coming out to him really brought us closer together and I am so happy I told him. (Non-Binary/12/Pansexual)
Story #2207
When I came out to my sister as Nonbinary, she accepted me right away and asked me for my pronouns. I told her the pronouns were they/them. She told me she could help me with the money for bottom surgery, and I’ve been thankful ever since! (Nonbinary/demiboy/12/Bisexual/pansexual/asexual)
Story #2200
When I came out, my Christian mom was so confused and unaccepting. I told her that I feel like I’m not female or male. She still uses she/her pronouns, when I asked her to use they/them. (Non-binary/12/Pansexual/enby)