When I came out, I was eleven. I texted my best friend at 1 A.M. (in my time zone, not hers – it was about noon there), and she was really confused about why I’m not sleeping. I quickly typed out that I was non-binary and my pronouns were they/them (still are!). She responded, “Meh…you never liked much of the girly stuff but you never seemed like a boy either. This seems like the right fit.” I am so grateful to have a person to confide my joy and fears to.
Story #2383
When I came out I thought I was bisexual, but I was wrong. Later I found out I was non-binary after being called girl too much; I tried he/him pronouns, but didn’t like them, so I used they/them and loved it. After I found out I was asexual, then aromantic, but that’s half wrong. Now, I’ve developed a crush on my friend after us being friends for a while. I have only told my cousins this, all of this. I don’t know how to tell others about me being demiromantic after thinking I’m aromantic for a full year, and I’m questioning if this friend will find out it’s them, so for now it’s just with my cousins. (Enby/14/Demiromantic Asexual)
Story #2382
When I came out, I had written a letter to my mom and she showed it to my dad. Then we had a long talk about puberty and stuff and I guess they were supportive, but later my mom said some pretty nasty things about being non-binary, but I think she’ll get over it. Someday, she will be okay with my identity. (Non-binary/11)
Story #2378
When I came out I had just come home from school. I hadn’t told anybody. I silently moved past my mum, went to close my bedroom door, paused, and nonchalantly said: “I’m nonbinary by the way, mum.” She turned around and said: “Okay.” (Nonbinary/18)
Story #2367
When I came out as non-binary, I texted my mum while I was with my friends. It has been stressful but everyone is really supportive and they all try their best to remember my pronouns and new name. I am also out to my friends as asexual/biromantic — they asked me to explain what it meant and once they understood they were both really nice about it. Things are going well now and I’m starting an LGBTQ+ youth group this week, and I plan to tell my parents about my sexuality within a few days 🙂 (Non-binary/13/Asexual/biromantic)
Story #2360
When I came out as nonbinary, my parents were pretty confused. They misgendered me and didn’t let me have gender affirming treatment for a while. They didn’t mean make me feel unsupported, they were just very confused. MY therapist who was also non-binary helped me immensely and talked to my parents. Then they were more accepting and brought me to a trans health clinic. It is still a learning curve for my parents, but a message to all fellow enbys; sometimes it takes some time for people to come around. 🙂 (Non-binary/genderqueer/14/Queer)
Story #2338
When I came out, my mother was just like, “ok I will respect you” and told me she is pan. My father said ok and made a few dad jokes. My friends were already out to me and me to them that was just I mentioned a crush used she/her pronouns. This one kid deadnamed me and my sister made fun of it/its pronouns but aside from that it was good. Mother even asked about transition (not yet). (Non-binary/Lesbian/neptunic)
Story #2336
When I came out I was sitting on the couch in a heated argument with my Abuela, and I said, “Well at least I’m not straight.” She looked at me with sadness and said, “What?” I said, “I like girls and guys.” She was confused but now that I look at it it’s really funny. (Non-binary/16/Pansexual)
Story #2333
When I came out I really didn’t mean to. My mom found out and got very angry, and I cried at work. My work friends don’t care but also don’t respect my pronouns either so I’m not sure where they stand. I lost my former best friend because of being non-binary, but my friends now are 100% supportive and I literally couldn’t be happier about that. I can’t wait to go to college and be myself without feeling my mom breathing down my neck. (Non-Binary/14)
Story #2317
When I came out it was a very scary thing. Most of my friends accepted me, but a lot of people bullied me for it. They made joke about my pronouns and they deadnamed me on purpose. I found someone to talk to about it and it made me feel better. When I came out as bi to my parents it did not go well. My dad supported me but my mom was a different story. I hope one day she will see that this will never change!! ✨🏳️🌈✨ (Non-binary/15/Bisexual)