When I came out I had never meant to. My parents had found a google hangouts conversation midway through my freshman year of high school that had been continuing for a while with my girlfriend. I had known this girl since middle school and still love her like nobody else (I’m now in my Junior year). They took it as a means to get attention, but ever since have not let me go to any friend’s house, male or female, without giving me a lecture about how I don’t need to date and I’m too young to know what love is let alone my sexuality. But I’m still here and queer and I hope to one day have a sit-down conversation with my parents and tell them straight up what and who I love. (F/17/Pansexual)
Story #1865
When I came out it was first to my mom. I couldn’t bring myself to say it in person so I made up a text draft and accidentally pressed send smh but I was going to do it sometime last night anyways. My mom got the text a little while later and asked me a few questions like who did I feel attraction towards and stuff like that. Now I just have to tell everyone else. (F/12/Very Very Bi)
Story #1864
When I came out not too long ago, my parents were/are very supportive. At first, I started to like girls, but at the same time I sort of had an attraction to guys. As time went on, I discovered that I in fact liked girls. One night my mom and I were talking and she asked me if I had anyone I liked in school. I said no (which is true), and then told her that I actually liked girls, and I was super scared. I started crying because I thought she wouldn’t accept me. She did, and she hugged me while I cried. My friends are also super supportive and accepted it pretty much immediately. It was an emotional few days for me. :’) (F/13/Lesbian)
Story #1863
When I came out, I was 14, just a few weeks ago. I had already come out to a few close friends, who were fine with it, but I struggled with the idea of coming out to everyone else; I have an aunt and uncle who are homophobic, who were living with us at the time, and my best friend, from age 6, is extremely Catholic and has very one-sided views about LGBT people. I finally worked up my courage after about a year of being sure of my sexuality. It was painful to get the words out of my mouth; it felt like a dream, like someone else was saying the words. My parents were indifferent; they have not acknowledged the fact at all. My best friend has not spoken to me since, and neither have my aunt and uncle. (F/15/Lesbian)
Story #1861
When I came out to my family as gay they considered it a joke, phase, or something for attention. They didn’t think of asking me if I liked someone or anything. What shocked me more was that all my friends were the ones who supported me and cared, but it hurt that my family didn’t care or didn’t want to believe that their daughter was gay. They started trying to get me a boyfriend, which was not wanted of course, and I told them to stop but they continued to ship me with guys who were my closest friends. IDK if they are homophobic or just confused, but I can’t bring myself to hate them for not being happy for me. (F/13/Gay/Lesbian)
Story #1857
When I came out to my friend yesterday, we were in the bus ride to a field trip. We were talking about how there was a time when I was very social and I brought up that there was something that had happened that made me less confident in myself (coming out to my close friends and parents). She asked what it was so I typed in phone, “I’m kinda bi.” She was/is supper supportive about it and we just talked about for a while. I’m so glad I have friends like her. (F/14/Bi)
Story #1856
When I came out, I was talking with my friend and she asked who I liked. I refused to tell her and made her guess the name. She finally put two and two together and asked me if it was a girl and I just nodded. I was super lucky that she accepted everything and actually knew what asexuality was. (F/14/Homoromantic Asexual)
Story #1855
When I came out, I was 16 in Year 12, but I had known since 13, and I told my friend I had a crush on someone. I was digging myself a hole because I had never talked about my crushes, so I dragged it out and was like, “Oh, I’m never gonna tell you.” Then I kept thinking about it in lessons. Then I ended up texting her on the bus when she was sitting right next to me ’cause I was too scared to tell her out loud. Then we talked about it and ate McDonald’s after. But it was the biggest weight off my chest. It’s going to be a long time before I come out to my family though. (F/17/Lesbian)
Story #1852
When I came out, my dad accepted me and he told me that he would love me no matter what. My mom is homophobic so I hadn’t told her yet. Three months later, my friend’s mom called my mom and outed me. My mom passed it off as a phase at first but when she learned that I had a girlfriend, she forced us to break up and now she pretends the whole thing never happened. She still plans my future with all the wrong pronouns. (F/13/Lesbian)
Story #1843
When I came out the first time was to one of my best friends, and I told her when I was fourteen. She was totally cool with it, and a month later I told my dad, who then told my mom. He wasn’t as accepting and we haven’t talked about it since. It makes about a year now. Last month I told one of my other best friends and she was super cool with it too. (F/15/Bi)