When I came out for the first time, I was at a sleepover with two of my best friends. They had gotten in a fight for some reason I can’t remember, and one of them, we’ll call her E, was sobbing next to me while the other one, who we’ll call A, went outside. I don’t remember all the details since its been over a year now, but we started talking about our personal issues and I ended up blurting out that I was gay. Luckily she’s very accepting and she even told me she was bi too! Like I said, it’s been over a year now and I’ve came out to all of my close friends personally, and posted a coming out post on Instagram to come out to other people that I don’t talk to that much 🙂 (F/14/Lesbian)
Story #1900
When I came out, I was lucky enough to be supported by almost everyone. One of my best friends and I were figuring out our sexualities at the same time, around our last year of high school, and when she came out to me as bi, it gave me the final push to realise I was bi too. I told my sister and friends first, then my parents a couple of months later, when the new year came around. I got into college already comfortable with my identity, met an amazing group of friends who are mostly LGBTQA+, and finally, three years ago, I posted a long statement to my Facebook profile on Pride Day, which was an indirect way to come out to my distant relatives and acquaintances. I think coming out is a process that never really ends, as you meet new people and get into new environments throughout your life, but my experiences have been very positive so far, and I know the allies I have met along the way will help make it even easier every time I have to do it again in the future. (F/21/Bi demiromantic)
Story #1896
When I came out it was because my mom asked about what made me decide to get my hair cut the way it is. I told her the truth because I didn’t wanna keep it in anymore. I had talked to my favorite teacher (rossy ik ur reading this lmao) earlier that week & he helped me realize who I was. But anyways, my mom didn’t say anything against it but idk if she would be considered accepting. She basically just said things that made it seem like I was confused & wanted attention & that she has had times where she thought a girl was attractive & that just because I had bad experiences with guys didn’t mean I was a lesbian. She told me that she didn’t care who I love & if I truly was a lesbian then she’d accept it. I ended up crying myself to sleep that night. (F/17/Lesbian/Gay)
Story #1892
When I came out to my community as a whole (I was already out to a few friends, who were bi themselves), I was a freshman in college. One friend messaged the group chat, saying, “I had a dream last night that [me] was gay!” I just replied, “Can confirm, am gay.” Everyone took it well, since the group was already probably about 50% LGBTQ+. (F/19/Lesbian)
Story #1891
When I came out, my twin sister was the first person I told. I thought she would accept me for being who I am, but she started calling me a faggot and other mean words. She was yelling at me and said that I was going to hell. Being the loud person she is, my mother heard and rushed into our room. My twin said everything to her, and surprisingly my mother accepted me. I’m now a proud lesbian that is no longer hiding in the closet! My twin sister still hates me, but she is still stuck with me for at least four years more so I guess she has to get used to the fact that i like girls. (F/15/Lesbian)
Story #1890
When I came out to my mother as a lesbian I was fifteen. She didn’t say anything against it, but she wasn’t exactly accepting it. Once my best friend sent me a meme and it contained a girl that moaned. Me as a lesbian with full volume and an «unaccepting» mother had the worst panick attack ever. I heard my mother rush upstairs and busted open my door. She said: «Are you watching porn!?» and I freaked out and had to explain to her. I showed her the video and we shared a good laugh. I’m now 19 and live with my girlfriend and my mom is fully accepting me. (F/19/Lesbian)
Story #1889
When I came out to a girl at school, all I did was say “me too” when she said she liked girls. She asked if we could date and I said no. She asked again another day and I told her I would think about it. I wonder if I should go for it? (F/Lesbian)
Story #1887
When I came out it was the last day of school and I gave two of my friends notes that said “I’m b” and that’s it. They took 30 minutes till they figured out I was bi. About a month later I told my friend that I thought I was actually pansexual, not bi. She supported me every second so I posted a story on Instagram saying I was pan. Most people questioned what it was but when I told them they thought it was cool. I’m gonna tell my parents soon. I know they will support me cuz my mom’s bi. (F/12/Pan)
Story #1884
When I came out it was to my best friend. She is like my sister; I tell her everything. She came out to me a couple weeks before saying she was bi and I was super supportive and happy! Then a couple weeks later I started becoming more and more attracted to girls. We were talking about how a girl we both hate is bi and then I said, “Well, if we’re talking about being bi then I should tell you I’m bi too.” She was in awe for like a minute then she gave me a hug and in music class I came out to the rest of my friends. (F/11/Bi)
Story #1883
When I came out to my mom, she told me it was a phase and a way to get attention. She then started talking about how she has good female friends, but she wouldn’t sleep with them, and that I’m just confused. I dropped the subject and she never said anything about it again. I came out to my friends, who were very supportive, and I know I’m queer, but since she is not ready to accept it I’m not planning to come out to my family until I’m 18 and I don’t live with them. But I’m glad I came out, even if some people won’t accept me for who I am. It’s easier dealing with being gay than keeping a secret all the time. (F/14/Lesbian)