When I came out, my brother asked me, “English or Spanish?” And I started dancing around. For those who don’t know, if someone says English or Spanish they say, “First one to move is gay.” What a way to come out! (Demigirl/12/Bisexual)
Story #2628
When I came out, it was 6th grade and I was always called gay and zesty for the way I acted and sounded and for the things I did because it was middle school after all. I wanted to fit in and be straight but I knew I had lots of attraction to guys and no matter how much I tried, I couldn’t be truly straight. Me and my best friend talked about our opinions on relationships with girls, understanding gay, and even acted and joked about being gay for fun. We stopped this for a couple months because we didn’t actually want to be gay but to my surprise, one day in March, after he was acting weird for the whole day, told me he was bisexual. Hearing him come out to me gave me the courage to realize I was bi too and we are both coming out to the rest of the world now. 💖💜💙 (M/12/Gay/bisexual)
Story #2626
When I came out, my mom didn’t really care, she just wants me to be me. I haven’t come out to my dad or his side of the family yet, because they’re super homophobic and transphobic. As soon as I can live on my own, I will tell him. (Agender/demigirl/13/Bisexual)
Story #2622
When I came out, I didn’t directly come out to my brother. I had a bisexual flag sticker on my water bottle and he saw it and he said, “I know what that means and if you need anyone to talk to about that stuff I’m here because I didn’t have anyone when I was your age” and we cried for a while and he ended up coming out to my mom as gay later that night so I didn’t feel alone. I love my brother. (F/13)
Story #2620
When I came out to my sister, she was very supportive. She said she was pansexual, and I was happy for her. I’m really scared to tell my parent though, because they’re Christian and homophobic. So I think me and my sister are going to wait for the right time. (12/Bisexual)
Story #2619
When I came out to my best friend, I was really nervous. I wrote a letter and gave it to her. Then I ignored her for the next thirty minutes. She asked if it was real, and then was really supportive. I haven’t come out to my parents yet but hopefully this summer. (AFAB/12/Genderfluid/demigirl/bisexual)
Story #2618
When I came out as non-binary, my girlfriend at the time talked about how I seemed so masculine and that using the non-binary label was just a fad. She is queer so I was hoping that over time she would grow to accept it, but the opposite happened. I was lucky to have a remote job so I could move out to be with family who still struggle with pronouns but accept me. I still struggle to understand my own gender fluidity because my gender feelings have always been strong, but feel like they change on a dime. At this point I’m out as non-binary though I don’t pass yet and the fluidity is not a thing I understand how to talk generally. However, this is the first time in my life that feels like I’m loving it in a way that is authentic to myself, and if you relate to my story at all, please be brave! ❤️ (Non-binary/genderfluid/27/Bisexual/demi-sexual/polyamorous)
Story #2609
When I came out, it was to my grandpa. We were watching some cheesy comedy show until my grandpa paused the TV and asked me if I was gay. I looked at my grandpa and my heart was going a hundred beats a second. I somehow managed to tell my grandpa that I was bisexual. He looked at me and said that was OK by him and he’ll love me no matter what. (M/15/Bisexual)
Story #2604
When I came out to my best friend it was mainly to ask their advice about wearing a binder safely. I trusted they’d provide a safe space for me without judgment, but because I was only just starting to really explore and admit these feelings to myself, I had convinced myself I’d never be believed; that I must be some kind of imposter because I’ve always presented so femme. Since then I’ve come out to one more friend as well, and both of them have stunned me with how affirming they were — it seems they knew before I even really did! I feel like it’s enough for me to have their support for now — I can wait before coming out to more difficult people such as my family, it just means the world to me to have one or two friends who truly support me expressing and exploring my gender fluidity. (AFAB/29/Bi/pan)
Story #2601
When I came out I was 18. My sib had just come out and my mom joked over the phone, “Is there anything you’d like to tell me?” I said, point blank, that I am bisexual. She quickly responded with “you’ll figure that all out in college,” which surprised me because she’s very accepting typically. I don’t think of that interaction often, but reading some of these coming out stories reminded me of mine, so I thought I’d share. (24/Bisexual)