When I came out, it was to my grandpa. We were watching some cheesy comedy show until my grandpa paused the TV and asked me if I was gay. I looked at my grandpa and my heart was going a hundred beats a second. I somehow managed to tell my grandpa that I was bisexual. He looked at me and said that was OK by him and he’ll love me no matter what. (M/15/Bisexual)
Story #2604
When I came out to my best friend it was mainly to ask their advice about wearing a binder safely. I trusted they’d provide a safe space for me without judgment, but because I was only just starting to really explore and admit these feelings to myself, I had convinced myself I’d never be believed; that I must be some kind of imposter because I’ve always presented so femme. Since then I’ve come out to one more friend as well, and both of them have stunned me with how affirming they were — it seems they knew before I even really did! I feel like it’s enough for me to have their support for now — I can wait before coming out to more difficult people such as my family, it just means the world to me to have one or two friends who truly support me expressing and exploring my gender fluidity. (AFAB/29/Bi/pan)
Story #2601
When I came out I was 18. My sib had just come out and my mom joked over the phone, “Is there anything you’d like to tell me?” I said, point blank, that I am bisexual. She quickly responded with “you’ll figure that all out in college,” which surprised me because she’s very accepting typically. I don’t think of that interaction often, but reading some of these coming out stories reminded me of mine, so I thought I’d share. (24/Bisexual)
Story #2593
When I came out… I was 8 or 9. I was watching a Barbie show and fell in love with the pretty pink dresses and cutesy bows and I told my mom, who was three months pregnant with my little sister, that I wanted to be a girl. She was at first surprised but she placed her hand on my shoulder and told her that she’ll love me no matter who or what I become. However, when I came out to my dad, who just returned from a work trip, he was disgusted and said that God made man and woman, not abominations. My mom argued with him and my dad still disrespects me and refers to me as a he/him. (Transgender/MtF/12/Bisexual)
Story #2589
When I came out it was first to my best friend, who always knew I was nonconforming (even before I ever came to know it). She wasn’t surprised and was really accepting and always has, embracing my gender expression regardless of how it is. (Genderfluid/20/Bisexual)
Story #2588
When I came out as bisexual to some of my friends a year ago, everything went great. But when I came out as non-binary to my best friend (that was 6 months ago) she said she wasn’t supportive of these ”ideologies” and stuff. We are still friends but it’s not the same as it was. I am the only queer person from my friend group but I found myself other queer friends and let me tell you it was the best that could happen to me. (Non-binary/19/Bisexual)
Story #2585
When I came out I was 12 and I told my older sister and was extremely nervous. I wasn’t sure how she was going to react but was pretty sure she would be supportive. I texted her a bi coming out meme and told her I’m bi. She was super shocked and came into my room and hugged me, and told me she was proud of me for having the courage to tell her. She agreed to not tell our parents, at least not yet. I texted my friend (who already knew and supports me) and she was also very excited for me. It made me so happy and I hope you all have supportive friends and family too. Good luck to all those who are thinking of coming out! (F/13/Bi/ace?)
Story #2583
When I came out, it was fairly hard. I was born a girl and everyone considered me a girl. Compared to the other preppy girls at my school, I look like something that came from a dumpster. However, when I first got my period, everything in me broke. Growing breasts felt like a barrier building up to prevent me from trying to be my true self. My mom found out about me being trans when my homophobic sociology teacher told her on open house. My mom was kind of supportive and my dad is completely neutral on the topic. However, my teacher still disrespects me and once he separated me from doing a group activity. I was sad but I hoped that my fellow queers won’t have to go through this. (FtM/Transmasc/14/Bisexual)
Story #2576
When I came out I was exhausted. I was stressed with school (grades, choices, career paths, etc.) and I had been having some issues with my sister screaming at us a lot and ruining our family evenings. My mom had also just returned from the hospital after suffering a stroke while we were on vacation. I was losing sleep, and I was lying in bed with my dad, and he told me that everything was going to be okay. I told him that I was dysphoric and that I may be non-binary. He was very supportive, but I told him not to tell anybody else because I’m still unsure what they would say. I am writing this the same evening of this happening. I should probably go to school, but I nearly cried of joy. (Non-binary/Bi)
Story #2575
When I came out I knew I was trans and had always been a boy. I had a bag of safety emergency stuff, and my mom found it and looked through it and it had info on me being trans. She kinda outed me to my dad ASAP (I’m a little upset). We talked that evening all together, and I kinda had to come out. It went overall well; my parents are still learning and had to challenge everything I said (quite annoying), but they love me and it is working out. Good luck to you all!!!! (Transgender [FtM]/13/Gay/bisexual)