When I Came Out

When I came out, I prepared a text to two of my best mates one night before college, saying something like, “Hey need to tell you something tomorrow.” Anyway I was about to delete the message and chicken out once again when I accidentally sent it. Well, the next day one of the girls kept asking me what it was through break. I went to lesson and finally texted her telling her I was gay. She was so lovely and accepting and is still one of my best friends to this day.

When I came out as bisexual to my brother, my sister was already aware. I flat-out asked him what he would think if one of his siblings wasn’t straight. He said, “Eh. Wouldn’t change anything.” I told him I am bisexual and he said, “You’re still my brother.”

When I came out as bi to my mom about 4 months ago I was extremely nervous. When I started out as a freshman in college (senior now) and like many people that age started drinking and partying pretty heavily, I had a string of one-night stands with both men and women for which I am totally ashamed because it was not behavior I was raised to view as acceptable. I thought she would love me less and be disgusted by what I had done and see me as some kind of deviant. I found the opposite to be true; she loved me more and she loved that I was willing to share this with her. So many parents know that their kids are keeping things from them and it makes them sad to know their kids don’t feel like they can trust them.

When I came out as bisexual, it was during my final semester of college earlier this year. Everyone I came out to was accepting. My family doesn’t know since I’m not sure if they’ll be accepting. If I could, I would thank the last girl I liked at college for helping me realize who I am.

When I came out to my sister, I thought I’d be weird, but I was surprised instead. I got as far as: “Hey, you know I’m gay—” before she interrupted me with a look. For a minute she didn’t say a word, just stared. Finally she grinned wildly, “Yeah, I know, Kat… it was that or you were attracted to books.” Then we laughed, just like we used to as kids.

When I came out to my best friend, it was in his car at 2h in the morning, and he was dropping me at my house. I was 17 and it had been a month that I was trying to tell him but I just couldn’t… My mouth was just so dry, my voice so shaky, but I did it. I told him I was bi, but maybe gay (which I think I am now). We talked for 15 minutes after we continued the conversation by textos. I couldn’t sleep, I had so much energy… he was really kind, he didn’t care, and now, 9 months later, I think of this moment as being one of the most important and maybe the best moment of my life. I’m so happy I did it! 🙂

When I came out it was to my two best friends that are twin brothers. Their reactions were opposites. My best friend at the time distanced himself. His twin grew closer to me, and now I rarely speak to my old best friend.

When I came out as trans and pansexual, most people were accepting; however, a couple people I considered close friends rejected me. I still stand strong with who I am.

When I came out it was to this girl from school I barely knew and it was over Facebook. I didn’t have any friends to tell so I told people I didn’t know. That became a “mistake” because people I hadn’t told, knew. I have a few friends and “friends” now that are okay with it, but I don’t know how my family will take it, I haven’t even accepted myself, never said “I’m gay” out loud, because saying it out loud to someone makes it real and I’m just so scared.

When I came out it was in 9th grade. I came out bisexual, but I knew I didn’t like boys at all. I thought it may have been easier. My friends and family accepted it, and a year later I came out to my parents as a lesbian. They were completely understanding and so were my friends. Plus, they all love my girlfriend!