When I Came Out

When I came out, I came out to my gay best friend. I wasn’t happy with myself for being lesbian. I had always been told that homosexuality is wrong (it’s not), and me and my friend would spend every Friday night together talking about LGBT+ and what it means. He also taught me to accept myself for who I am, not what society wants me to be. I was finally confident with who I am, and was ready to come out to everyone. Me and my friend made an announcement during an assembly, and I came out to everyone.

When I came out, I came out to my best friend. She is very religious, and I had assumed that she was homophobic. Turns out she wasn’t. She was very accepting of who I am. She said, “God put everything on this earth, meaning that the gays are here for a reason. That reason is to teach everyone that love is love no matter what.”

When I came out to my mom it took me more than forty minutes to just say one sentence.

Me: If one day I came up to you and said, “This is my girlfriend”, how would you respond?

She laughed.

When I came out as a lesbian to my friends I was nervous and scared as to what their response would be. But they were nothing but supportive and my best friend even came out as asexual. I still haven’t told my parents, as they’re very homophobic, but I’m glad to have such supporting people in my life.

When I came out as MtF trans my brother screamed, “I HAVE NO BROTHER!” After a few seconds of stunned silence he continued, “So, what’s up, sis?”

When I came out, it turned out I was too good of an actress. Both parents didn’t believe that I wasn’t a man at the time. My dad still doesn’t, almost four years later.

When I came out, I told my parents first. I felt like they needed to know. Ever since then, I always hang out with my dad because my mom wasn’t too happy with me. I eventually just gave up on her and stayed with my dad. Now we drink, check out girls, and party together.

When I came out to my best friend, she thought that I had a crush on her and that was the only reason that I became friends with her. That was partly true, but I didn’t start crushing on her until after we became best friends. She stopped talking to me, and told the entire school that I am lesbian. I played it out like Janis Ian from Mean Girls. I said, “That’s right!!!! I’ve got a BIG lesbian crush on you!!! Suck on that!!!” I then screamed, “AYAYAYAYAYAYA” while running down the hallways. I got a detention, but it was well worth it. Thank you, Mean Girls.

When I came out, I was sitting at the table eating dinner with my housemate. He was asking about who I was messaging for the past couple weeks, messages I didn’t allow him to read. Jokingly, he asked, “Is it a boy or girl?” so I said: It’s a boy. He was shocked and asked: Wait, for real? Are you kidding? So I said no, I’m serious. Then he said: Okay, I didn’t expect that, it’s brave of you coming out, I’m totally okay with it.

When I came out I told my best friend first. She was perfectly okay and told me she already knew. Almost a year later, I came out to my parents who both said they’d known for about 9 months. They were incredibly supportive and now my dad and I get to look at girls together.