When I Came Out

When I came out I told my best friend over text and basically sent this massive paragraph (wasn’t really necessary) and she just replied saying how proud she is of me and that nothing will ever change. I’m 13.

When I came out to the couple who have been like parents to me, my hands were shaking and my pulse rate was through the roof. But he asked if I was happy, and she laughed, and the conversation moved on.

When I came out, the hardest part was talking to my mom about it. I told her that the “Spanish Club” I had been going to was actually a GSA Weekly Meeting. I told her I was bisexual and she told me she loves and supports me no matter what. Nothing has been different nor awkward, definitely a great feeling.

When I came out as asexual to my parents, my mother didn’t believe me and thought it was just a phase. She still does. That was two years ago. Today I finally came out to my good friends. I sent them the Glee version of Defying Gravity along with my message. They immediately came over to my room with hugs and cake.

When I came out, I was in art class sitting next to my best friend. I told her, “What if your best friend came out to you?” and she replied, “Are you?” and I told her I’m not sure. She had been telling me about this move called G.B.F., short for gay best friend. To tell her that I’m sure that I’m lesbian, I texted her, can I be your gbf? This was only a few days ago but I feel so much better that I told her.

When I first came out, it was to a guy crushing on me. (Awkward) He was really supportive though, even though I said I didn’t like him. (Awkward again) The second person I came out to was my Internet friend, whom I had only met three months prior. Since we had gotten quite close and she was a pansexual, which is similar to a panromantic asexual (my orientation) and also in another country, I decided to tell her. Step one: accept myself; done. Step two: come out to Internet friends; done. Step three: family, friends…

When I came out to parents, it was at a family shrink session and they made me. I’d been seeing this girl and presenting her as just a friend but they said they thought it was more. The forced me to answer and when I finally said yes with tears in my eyes, my mom said that it was just one girl and it’d pass. We haven’t talked about it since, but she always assumes I have sex with every single one of my female friends now.

When I came out to my older brother, it went like this:

Me: I don’t really wanna go with Hugo, he’s in love me and I don’t wanna lead him on
Him: Understandable. Go with Julia?
Me: Same problem
Him: She’s in love with you?
Me: No
Him: You’re in love with her?
Me: Yes
Him: It happens… Wanna grab a bite somewhere?

I love him; he’s the best.

When I came out to my best guy friend, having previously done so to my parents and a few friends, he came out to me as bi. I was so relieved, and I don’t think we’ve ever been closer.

When I came out I said to my closest friends, “You two are the people I trust the most in the world….. I’m gay.” They completely accepted me and one of them said, “That’s great. If it’s any consolation I’m bisexual.” Then when I came out to my parents they just hugged me and said they didn’t care about my sexuality, they only cared if I was happy or not.