When I Came Out

When I came out it wasn’t planned at all. I am 14 and I’m happy it went this way, because I’m not an organized person. I had to do a project about LGBT with a gay boy in my class. I told my parents about the project and they said, “So you’re coming out?” I said, “Okay! Why not?.. Mom, dad…. I fall in love with girls” 🙂 while throwing my hands up in the air. They stared at me first, like I was crazy, but then they were also like, “Okay, we are happy for you!”

When I came out to my parents last month, they were basically in denial and my mom cried after yelling at me. Now they never even bring it up.

When I came out to my best friend of 17 years, I was 36 years old. It had taken me half of my lifetime to tell my truth. It may seem heartbreaking, at my age, never to have had a physical relationship, but I am now more whole than I have ever been.

When I came out, I was terrified. I left a note for my sister in her closet for her to see when she was getting dressed in the morning (good idea, right?). At 11:30 on the dot, I get a text from her and my heart drops. I unlock my phone and all she said was, “I love you.” I was so happy to have a family member be so accepting, it makes it much less scary, so I will be telling my mom tomorrow.

When I came out a couple of days ago as a lesbian, my two sisters who I shared a room with won’t sleep in the same room now. Apparently they think they’ll “catch the gay”.

When I came out, it was to my mom. She is my best friend and I just bawled before I even said anything to her. She looked at me and said, “Is it what I think it is?” and I just nodded yes. She then started to cry because she was happy I told her and she said she didn’t care as long as I was happy. And eventually I came out to my entire family.

When I came out as lesbian, my mom accepted me instantly and my dad got really quiet. I got scared and started to cry. He then chuckled and said, “I get it. I like girls too.”

When I came out as bisexual to my best friends, we were at a sleepover. One of them asked if there were any boys at our school that I liked and I said, “Do they have to be a boy?” And she was like, “Wait, are you bi or something?” so I said yeah and they all burst out laughing because they had no idea, but in all they were pretty chill about it.

When I came out for the first time to my best friend, I couldn’t even say it out loud. I ended up writing a poem trying to explain the chaos inside. I ended the poem with, “I’m bending and you’re straight.” That friend looked me in the eye and told me that she knew. “Your closet had a light on, sweetheart.”

When I came out I was drunk. At a party. Just finished making out with a horrible guy and was on my way to his car to have sex. I stopped, got into another car, cried my eyes out to the girl who was in there and told her I was gay and trying to change by having sex with that guy. I’m still not out to everyone, but that girl and I are friends now.