When I Came Out

When I came out to my mother she cried. I was expecting this, and I thought I would cry too… I didn’t. I just sat there in the car with my mother sobbing next to me. She chose to ignore it at first. Slowly but surely, though, she began to accept it more. Things couldn’t be better now!

When I came out it was to my biology teacher in high school when I was 17. He was a very sensitive man and had felt that something was “off”. So after class he asked me what’s wrong, and I broke down in tears. He was very supportive, telling me that it’s better to be real and authentic than in denial. A few weeks later I told my closest friends and they too were supportive except one (who turned out to have far greater problems herself with her own insecurities).

When I came out, my best friend had already come out as bi (I’m pan), but I didn’t tell her I was in love with her. Her boyfriend knows that I’m pan, and I always joke that I’m going to “steal your girl”. I just wish it would actually happen.

When I came out as a bi girl last week I was at a sleepover with six friends. I was freaking out the whole time and finally told one of them. We were alone and I told her I wanted to say something. It took me about 5 minutes but I finally said it. She hugged me and I cried. She told me not to bind it and to be proud and now all six of them know.

When I came out to my best friend I asked if it was okay and she told me that I’m exactly the same person. I started crying because that’s exactly what I needed to hear.

When I came out to my best friend, even though I knew she wasn’t homophobic, I was scared she would see me differently and be more awkward towards me. I though it would change everything — it changed nothing at all.

When I came out to my brother as trans he said that sometimes he feels he’s trans too. What he meant is that sometimes he wants to be with a guy (he’s bi) more than he wants to be with a woman and was basically trying to say that maybe I’m just gay and that’s why I’m afraid to come out to anyone else.

When I came out I told my best friend and she was so happy for me. She said she had known for a while but is always there for me and loves me no matter what.

When I came out to my best friend over a whatsapp voice message, at first I thought she was ignoring what I said, because she just answered with a story about something funny her coworker did that day, only to add a shy, “By the way, I’d never have guessed that you’re bi, but I think it’s really cool!” 5 minutes later. Nothing changed, we’re still inseparable. 🙂

When I came out, I told my spanish teacher and she was so supportive of me, I cried, she nearly cried, it was emotional, still haven’t told my parents though, that day will come… eventually.