When I Came Out

When I came out to my new group of friends at work, they laughed. Ends up all four of us are queer, the only out ones where we work. I guess the queer just attract each other.

When I came out I was so nervous, so the only opportunity I had was to do it over messages. When I finally pressed the button I was so happy to get such a supportive reply from my best friend. But now that I have said it, I feel like my best friend doesn’t want to talk to me anymore and I really need someone to talk to. I just don’t have the confidence to go up to her and say “hi” anymore…

When I came out as a lesbian to my boyfriend of 4 years, he couldn’t believe it. I probably would have figured it out sooner if it wasn’t long distance… but it also probably would have been harder to leave. We tried to remain friends, but he refused to accept my feelings and this eroded the friendship. Some of us only figure out who we are after knowing who we aren’t.

When I came out to my mom, she was more supportive than I could’ve ever imagined. It was the scariest thing I ever had to do because my family is pretty homophobic. After we talked about it, she read my letter and told me nothing had changed. Before I left, she told me I was still the same bright girl as before and said, “You’re going to have a good life, hun.”

When I came out to my parents as bisexual they were both very accepting. Then, my mom came out to me as bisexual too. In my grade there are at least 4 other bisexuals. I feel so lucky to be able to go to people when I’m having trouble.

When I came out to my mother as a lesbian she was super supportive and said she had already thought I was because I never talked about boys. I told my father and sister the day after and they were very accepting as well. Tomorrow I am going to tell my best friend.

When I came out to my mother she cried. I was expecting this, and I thought I would cry too… I didn’t. I just sat there in the car with my mother sobbing next to me. She chose to ignore it at first. Slowly but surely, though, she began to accept it more. Things couldn’t be better now!

When I came out it was to my biology teacher in high school when I was 17. He was a very sensitive man and had felt that something was “off”. So after class he asked me what’s wrong, and I broke down in tears. He was very supportive, telling me that it’s better to be real and authentic than in denial. A few weeks later I told my closest friends and they too were supportive except one (who turned out to have far greater problems herself with her own insecurities).

When I came out, my best friend had already come out as bi (I’m pan), but I didn’t tell her I was in love with her. Her boyfriend knows that I’m pan, and I always joke that I’m going to “steal your girl”. I just wish it would actually happen.

When I came out as a bi girl last week I was at a sleepover with six friends. I was freaking out the whole time and finally told one of them. We were alone and I told her I wanted to say something. It took me about 5 minutes but I finally said it. She hugged me and I cried. She told me not to bind it and to be proud and now all six of them know.