When I Came Out

When I came out, I had seen a coming out video, taken the Kinsey scale test, and brought it up the next day when someone said, “Are you sure you’re not gay?”

“Well, I’m a 4 on the Kinsey scale.”

When I came out to my best friend, the boy sitting next to me heard and started telling someone else that I was going to hell for being gay and right then I decided it was a horrible time to come out and since then I haven’t told anyone else.

When I came out, it was to my best friend and it took me a while to tell her. I started off rambling about certain gay musicians without specifically using the word, hoping she’d catch on. Finally, I got to a point where I felt like bursting and said, “I don’t think I am…” And she cut me off and said, “straight? Oh, that’s cool. You have your entire life to figure it out!”

When I came out, it was to some friends at my school. I go to a very Christian military school where I live with guys all day. I was in charge of about 60 of them. One day I started just crying my eyes out because I could tell that these kids weren’t happy because they were at this school not allowed to be who they want to be. They couldn’t express themselves like everyone in public school can. Therefore I just told a bunch of them, “Hey, I’m gay.” A few refused to look at me, some hugged me and one even said he loved me. To this day, I was so glad to make that decision of telling them.

When I came out, I told my friends in person. It took them a while to actually believe me, but now they understand. I am 15 and am unsure of the future. It scares me thinking about it.

When I came out as lesbian, it was to my best friend after a football game. We are both in marching band and we were walking back to the school when I told her I was gay and she said, “I know. You aren’t very discreet about checking girls out.”

When I came out to my dad I said, “Hey guess what? I’m gay!” and he looked at me and shrugged and said, “So what? Everybody likes someone!” He is really supportive.

When I came out, it was to one of my closest friends in high school. We were in a parking lot and I said something along the lines of “Let’s say I was hypothetically into girls.” It took me literally five minutes to work up the courage to say that. She squealed and told me she was proud of me. I’ve only told one other since then and that also went well.

When I came out to my parents as lesbian, it was the scariest and most freeing moment of my life. They told me they loved me but not to tell anyone and maybe I just haven’t found the “right boy” yet. Little do they know half my high school knows and I’ve had a girlfriend for almost 2 years.

When I came out, I was at a party and I told all of my friends I needed to tell them something. My best friend asked, “Are you gay?” to which I replied, “Pretty much.” They were all accepting, thankfully.