When I first came out I was 12-13 years old. I came out as bisexual and my parents and friends supported me really well, but only last year I came out as transgender. My friends really supported me and had my back because some of them were a part/allies of the lgbtq+ which made things easier. Here comes the tricky part: I had sorted out a huge letter for my parents via text. Keep in my mind that my dad is Jewish, so when I came out I got a very silent response, which I had expected. My mum, on the other hand, helped be who I am but she never fully accepted me or she never said and would say things like “No, you’re not, you’re a girl” …etc etc. Fast forward to now, I think I might be pansexual/bisexual but I don’t know yet and I’m hoping that one day I can decide. (FtM/16/Pansexual/transgender/bisexual/questioning)
Story #2363
When I came out I told my friends first (who all turned out to be queer too, I just had the ultimate swag to come out first lol) and they were very accepting. Then I told my parents, who were accepting but also cold and skeptical, especially my mom, who thought that I didn’t know enough about gender identities to decide for myself. She convinced me I was non-binary, which was kinda wack, but when I re-came out again she respected it, and now she even supports me starting T! (FtM/17/Gay)
Story #2358
When I came out, I was outed. My mother went through my phone and asked me, “So you want to have boy parts and dress like a boy?” I broke down and told her that I did want that. She wasn’t too happy. That was a year and a half ago. I’m still not fully accepted. People at school are horrible. I get barked at every day, I’m harassed, touched, and outed continuously, but it’s getting a little better every day. (M/FtM/15/Homoflexible/bisexual)
Story #2347
When I came out was from the end of my 8th grade year to the beginning of 9th grade. I told some kids at my school who I thought I could trust. I ended up getting bullied, though. Despite all that I still have friends that support me. Coming out to my mom was the hardest part. Especially when my step dad makes rude comments to transgender people in public. She had a hard time accepting me at first but she is slowly adjusting. I am still coming out so some of my family to this day. (M/15/Transgender)
Story #2329
When I came out I was about 7 years old and did not know what transgender was. I had short hair and lived in Wisconsin. I was mistaken for a boy very often, even on an all girls soccer team. Basically I told my mom that when people thought I was a boy I would just go along with it and say yes I was a boy. We were moving from Wisconsin to Missouri at the time, both not good spots for a trans kid. But my mom asked me my new name and everyone at my new school had no idea I was not cis. I only stayed in Missouri for a year than we moved to Minnesota, and here it is much better for me to be me! (M/11/Omnisexual/transgender)
Story #2325
When I came out, it was more of an impromptu thing. My friend whom I previously told convinced me to tell my favorite teachers so I wouldn’t be deadnamed by them. They stood by me the whole time for comfort and now I have two teachers on my side 🙂 I have some other supportive friends, and they use my new name and pronouns, which is so liberating. My family is not supportive, so transitioning isn’t possible yet. Facing lots of self doubts but excited to become myself finally. (FtM/17/Bi)
Story #2321
When I came out, it was to only a few close friends by accident. I was at a Halloween party and we were sitting in the host’s bedroom. We were talking about another friend who had come out as trans (MTF), and I blurted out, “It’s like we traded genders.” They were confused at first, but they eventually caught on and they were very supportive. Coming out is scary, but if you surround yourself with people you trust, they’ll be there for you all the way. (FTM/14/Bisexual)
Story #2311
When I came out, I don’t think I entirely did it intentionally. Which, yes, in retrospect is absolutely hilarious. And at that point, I think my mom might have already known. I started out thinking that I was cis; as years went on, though, my views changed, and I thought I might be nonbinary. And then, I realized I prefer male pronouns, and wanted to be comfortable in my own body! One day, I was just in the car, and I just sort of said it to my mom. I don’t really have any preferred names right now, and she was a bit confused by that. I’m still on the road to figuring myself out, but it’s getting easier every day! Thank you for listening 🙂 (Male [FtM]/12/Bisexual)
Story #2307
When I came out I had been questioning my gender identity for a long time. I was born a girl but never connected with it. People always thought of me as a lesbian tomboy and nothing more but when I learned about being trans and what it was I realized that I wasn’t a girl. However I was still very confused and scared so instead of making the jump to being a trans guy I waited and stuck with the term non-binary (but as you can tell it wasn’t the right fit). After a lot of thought I came out to my parents over dinner. I was nervous even though it was my third time. Overall I have been accepted by my family and friends. Along with this hope to take steps to medically transition. (M/13/Trans (FtM)/straight? bi?)
Story #2299
When I came out to my mom, she said she accepted me, but kept misgendering me. I remember telling her I wanted to change my name, and she got really mad. Recently I talked to her about constantly misgendering me, and she said that I was “too young to know”, which is stupid. When I came out to my dad, he said I didn’t “act like a boy”, and wouldn’t refer to me as one. I’m lucky to have friends, an aunt and a few cousins that accept me. (Transmasculine/13/Gay)