When I came out, it was to a close friend. She had just come out to me as bisexual a week or so earlier, and I had already told them about being aroace, so I knew she was part of the community. She texted me to tell me she was actually a lesbian, and I responded cool, then I asked them what they would do about non binary pronouns. She said she would use their real pronouns, and asked, ‘hey, aren’t you nb too? I’m actually a demigirl.’ Her support also helped me tell another one of my friends. Hopefully you all can find your people who will support you. (NONBINARY/I HAVE NO GENDER ONLY RAGE/14/Aromantic Asexual Agender Nonbinary Trans [FtNB])
Story #2462
When I came out I was 16. Been many years in the making and eventually only said something because I was afraid to start college with the dead weight of my old name with me. Things aren’t perfect yet but I’m finally getting somewhere 🙂 hoping to start T in a couple months 😉 (M/18/Transgender/straight)
Story #2457
When I came out everything felt weirder. I feel like everyone I told (myself included) just tried to avoid the topic. I felt like I was half in and half out of the ‘closet’. Different people in my life responded differently and knew different amounts: my mom knew but didn’t think that nonbinary people could have gender dysphoria, my dad sort of knew but thought it was ‘just a phase’ and didn’t take me very seriously, my dad’s partner was supportive, my mom’s partner didn’t know and thought that ‘there’s no possible way that there are that many transgender people. I mean, there’s always going to be one or two, but…’, and so one. I was (and still am) so scared of rejection. I came to a point where I felt that I had ‘come out’ too much to pretend it had never happened yet too far to fully come out without making it seem like I was craving attention, or doing too much. Because I never knew how to properly come out, no one knows my full identity, just that I use they/them pronouns (sort of), that I don’t dress femininely (at least most of the time), and that I wasn’t straight (even though I never clearly stated my orientation). (Nonbinary Genderflor Genderflux Trans/11/Arospec Ace-spec Abroromantic Lesbian)
Story #2437
When I came out it was online. My online friend asked me if we can voice rev and I said sure. I didn’t know what to do because I am FTM trans and my voice sounds like a girl (I haven’t started T yet) and I was struggling on what to do. I tried to deepen my voice but I was afraid it wouldn’t work out and I accidentally blurted out, “Ah sh*t” because I thought I was on mute but sadly I wasn’t. I immediately left the call. I was panicking out, then a minute later he said, “Your voice sounds like a girl. Are you secretly a girl or nah?” and I went like, “Oh f*ck I went way way wrong,” so I just told him that I was trans. This is possibility the dumbest way I came out by accident. (Male FtM/13)
Story #2429
When I came out I was 20/21 and my parents were very accepting of me. But I have friends who are very supportive of me and call me by my gender correct name, which is cool. I am now known as Jay. (M/42/FtM)
Story #2427
When I came out I was like 13 and both me and my best friend had been questioning our genders (we both decided on enby at the time) and we filled out a little pronoun/term paper and I said yes to he/him. a couple months later I told them I was trans (ftm) and they just said they knew it. They were super supportive and still are, and they continue to ask for my pronouns a lot since I’m still kinda figuring myself out. (Male/enby?/15/idk like gay ig)
Story #2418
When I came out I was scared because my school counselor found out and she was going to tell my parents and I wasn’t out to them at the time, so I was scared. So I hurried home and I sat them down and looked at them and said, “Hey guys, I need to talk to you,” and I told them I am trans. I almost got kicked out of the house, but now they act like nothing happened and now they call me by my new pronouns. (F/15)
Story #2417
When I came out I was 9 years old. I knew I was a girl so I came out to my best friend, who supported me. I haven’t come out at abro or aceflux yet, but I really hope everybody upports me when I do! (MTF/10/Abro/aceflux)
Story #2403
When I came out, it was the most out of context thing because I was with a friend on the bleachers, and I was on my phone looking at my second Instagram account that I use for myself where I have my correct pronouns. I was editing my profile when my friend took my phone and saw what I was doing and he was like, “Are you trans?” And I was like, “Yeah.” He was really supportive, though, but it was awkward because he was shouting and there were a lot of people there. (FtM/15/Bi)
Story #2398
When I came out I was 12 (7th grade). I had come out as lesbian to my mom; she was accepting of it as she was bisexual. On the other hand, my grandma thought I was too young to actually know. As time went on, when I got into the 8th grade, I wasn’t very happy with my gender. I never wanted to say I was a boy cause I felt it was wrong to think so I said I was nonbinary. I recently came out to my mom as trans and she’s trying to get used to it. I’m still trying to figure it all out, though. (M/15/Transgender/bisexual)