When I came out I sent a text message to my best friend. She was really accepting, and I’m so grateful. I haven’t come out to anyone else yet, but I want to tell my parents so I can transition, hopefully soon. You are worthy and valid and you can come out and be the person you want to be, no matter what they say. Trust me, it’s liberating! 🏳️⚧️❤️ (F/14/Trans woman)
Story #2391
When I came out I was 11 and my dad had just found out about how I was self-harming. He was bringing me a towel after my shower and accidentally saw everything. I broke down, and he asked me why I was doing this. At the time, I was out as non-binary, but I told him I was a boy. My dad was very accepting, which made sense. I wasn’t scared to come out to my mom, since she’s a lesbian. How that went was, “Mom, I’m transgender,” and “Okay, what does that mean for you?” Then I flip-flopped between omnisexual, bisexual, and gay/mlm until eventually settling on gay. I’m out to everyone and am happier than ever. (M/FtM/14/Gay/mlm)
Story #2379
When I came out, I was a little scared. I’m a trans man born female at birth but gender expression is male. I had already been out to my friends (almost all of them are queer) and I came out to my parents. They said good job but also said like stop talking about it; they are supportive, just sick of my talking about it. So I came out a second time. This time it’s a letter and they got the message! I was so happy. Then I came out to my uncle’s family. they are supportive and my aunt’s family but everyone else…. isn’t… and it’s hard to keep it secret.
Story #2377
When I came out, my mom dismissed me and said I was following trends, then said I was born a girl, always a girl, and deadnamed me and then threatened to take away my internet. (M/Trans)
Story #2365
When I first came out I was 12-13 years old. I came out as bisexual and my parents and friends supported me really well, but only last year I came out as transgender. My friends really supported me and had my back because some of them were a part/allies of the lgbtq+ which made things easier. Here comes the tricky part: I had sorted out a huge letter for my parents via text. Keep in my mind that my dad is Jewish, so when I came out I got a very silent response, which I had expected. My mum, on the other hand, helped be who I am but she never fully accepted me or she never said and would say things like “No, you’re not, you’re a girl” …etc etc. Fast forward to now, I think I might be pansexual/bisexual but I don’t know yet and I’m hoping that one day I can decide. (FtM/16/Pansexual/transgender/bisexual/questioning)
Story #2363
When I came out I told my friends first (who all turned out to be queer too, I just had the ultimate swag to come out first lol) and they were very accepting. Then I told my parents, who were accepting but also cold and skeptical, especially my mom, who thought that I didn’t know enough about gender identities to decide for myself. She convinced me I was non-binary, which was kinda wack, but when I re-came out again she respected it, and now she even supports me starting T! (FtM/17/Gay)
Story #2358
When I came out, I was outed. My mother went through my phone and asked me, “So you want to have boy parts and dress like a boy?” I broke down and told her that I did want that. She wasn’t too happy. That was a year and a half ago. I’m still not fully accepted. People at school are horrible. I get barked at every day, I’m harassed, touched, and outed continuously, but it’s getting a little better every day. (M/FtM/15/Homoflexible/bisexual)
Story #2347
When I came out was from the end of my 8th grade year to the beginning of 9th grade. I told some kids at my school who I thought I could trust. I ended up getting bullied, though. Despite all that I still have friends that support me. Coming out to my mom was the hardest part. Especially when my step dad makes rude comments to transgender people in public. She had a hard time accepting me at first but she is slowly adjusting. I am still coming out so some of my family to this day. (M/15/Transgender)
Story #2329
When I came out I was about 7 years old and did not know what transgender was. I had short hair and lived in Wisconsin. I was mistaken for a boy very often, even on an all girls soccer team. Basically I told my mom that when people thought I was a boy I would just go along with it and say yes I was a boy. We were moving from Wisconsin to Missouri at the time, both not good spots for a trans kid. But my mom asked me my new name and everyone at my new school had no idea I was not cis. I only stayed in Missouri for a year than we moved to Minnesota, and here it is much better for me to be me! (M/11/Omnisexual/transgender)
Story #2325
When I came out, it was more of an impromptu thing. My friend whom I previously told convinced me to tell my favorite teachers so I wouldn’t be deadnamed by them. They stood by me the whole time for comfort and now I have two teachers on my side 🙂 I have some other supportive friends, and they use my new name and pronouns, which is so liberating. My family is not supportive, so transitioning isn’t possible yet. Facing lots of self doubts but excited to become myself finally. (FtM/17/Bi)