When I came out I wrote a letter to my mom. She asked me to come speak to her. She said she thinks I’m just doing it for attention and I’m such an attention seeker. Really, I have always hated being a girl and everyone just thought I was a big tomboy. Besides what my mom says, I dress as a very flamboyant boy now as that’s what I prefer. I want to cut my hair to a buzz cut desperately but my mom won’t let me 🙁 Anyways, hopefully when I leave home I can get top surgery and start T (M/15/Pansexual)
Story #2336
When I came out I was sitting on the couch in a heated argument with my Abuela, and I said, “Well at least I’m not straight.” She looked at me with sadness and said, “What?” I said, “I like girls and guys.” She was confused but now that I look at it it’s really funny. (Non-binary/16/Pansexual)
Story #2335
When I came out to my school as being under the transgender umbrella no one really asked why or said anything rude, and the people who did I just ignored. I was accepted from the moment I came out (mostly cus everybody already knew); however, that wasn’t the situation at home. My mom didn’t accept it at all and my dad just called me by a male version of my deadname for a few days and then forgot about it. When I came out to my family with my sexual orientation my mom just told me that I was bisexual and my dad fully accepted me. I never had the need to come out to the people at school because yet again, everyone already guessed that was the case. Just know that you’re not alone if your parents don’t accept you and you’ll be able to transition/be accepted soon enough 🙂 (Bigender/14/Pansexual/questioning)
Story #2332
When I came out I first did with my friends who are mostly gay so they were supportive. I then told my parents over text. They are supportive but don’t want me telling everyone who asks me. I sometimes feel like they are weird about my sexuality but at least they aren’t mean about it. (Demigirl/12/Pansexual)
Story #2310
When I came out it was hard. I came out to my friends first when I was fourteen. It was difficult and I only came out to my friends who were allies and I knew wouldn’t judge me. I still haven’t come out to my parents. They’re not accepting of the lgbtq+ at all and honestly I’m terrified of what going to happen. I know I’ll do it soon but it’s scary. I have some really supportive friends who have made my life easier. I know they’ll have my back and that makes me feel better when I think about it. (Genderfluid/18/Pansexual)
Story #2298
When I came out, I came out as bi at first, then a year later I found that I’m actually pansexual. My mom, dad, brothers, and sister were supportive of me. After coming out, I felt a huge relief like a weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Now I’m living a happy life and dating the man of my dreams. (M/36/Pansexual)
Story #2295
When I came out I first came out as bi. My mom was super supportive and gave me a huge hug. Two years later I came out as pan and nonbinary to my mom and dad. My mom was supportive yet again, and my dad said he was too, but I could tell a lot of tension arose with my dad afterwards, including when it seemed like he forgot when I went to visit him. I had to redo it all over again, and he made the excuse that it would take him a while. He used the name because it sounded similar to my middle name, and I never heard him mess up, and I haven’t heard him use my pronouns once. I have my friends and the club at my school that has my back everyday. I love my friends so much, and they support me through everything, even with my mental health. (Nonbinary/15/Pansexual)
Story #2294
When I came out it was at school with my friend group. I always knew I was pan but no one else did. My mother ended up finding out from a teacher at school and so I had to tell her face to face. She cried for the next week because she thought I was a lesbian and where she came from gay equals death. But she ended up accepting me eventually and everyone else in my family does too, except for my uncle who may or may not be disowning me anytime soon. (Genderfluid/15/Pan/poly)
Story #2290
When I came out it was to my friends. We were just chilling when suddenly Friend 1 asked if we were straight (Friend 1 was). Friend 2 said she didn’t like anyone. When Friend 1 asked me, I just shook my head. She asked what I was and I said I was pan. Friend 1 didn’t know what that was and didn’t care, but Friend 2 asked what it meant and understood. All in all I think it went pretty well, even though neither friend talks about it. (F/11/Pansexual)
Story #2289
When I came out, it was only to a few people at first. Just some super close friends. At the time, I was pansexual and cis female. Things have changed a decent amount since then, as I’ve come out to them, and a few of my siblings, as nonbinary trans-masc, pansexual, and polyamorous. They’ve all been my biggest supporters and the best friends I could ever ask for. I even got 3 partners that support me as well! I might not tell my parents yet though, since we live in the south and they’re both pastors. Until I move out, I don’t really wanna consider telling them. :/ (Nonbinary Trans-Masc [they/he/fae/it]/17/Pansexual polyamorous)