When I came out, my little sister was the first person I told. I was kind of nervous because I thought she would accept me but I wasn’t sure. I had been talking about the LGBTQ+ community around her, letting her get used to the idea and seeing if she was cool with it. One day, I decided to go for it. I told her I identified as pansexual, and she thought for a really long time. The question she generated in that amount of time was: “Does that mean you’re non-binary too?” I laughed, and I explained to her that I’m not non-binary, only pansexual. She seemed to understand everything, and I’m happy that she turned out to be an ally of the LGBTQ+ community. She even makes small LGBTQ+ related jokes sometimes, just to make me smile. I couldn’t have asked for a more accepting sister. (F/13/Pansexual)
Story #2430
When I came out as genderfluid to my bff, she was really supportive. She’s bi/ace/demigirl as well so she was great about it. I’m coming out to my parents today… wish me luck. (Genderfluid/M/12/Pansexual)
Story #2423
When I came out I was 12 and still thinking I was Bisexual, but I fell love with a Demi-girl and I came to my family as Pansexual and Non-binary. Maybe if I just was a little more sure on who I loved then I would knew more sooner, but I think it was the perfect timing! Love is love! Be who you are and don’t hide it! (Non-binary/12/Pansexual)
Story #2390
When I came out I was 13 years old. I had told my parents, and my dad just ignored it but my mom started yelling and asking questions that were none of her business and made me extremely uncomfortable (at the time I came out as bisexual). I’ve never thought about myself as a girl; I just saw me as I was, and it wasn’t until puberty I realized I wasn’t a girl. I didn’t like anything; my long hair was a bother and seemingly the only thing people liked about me. I just disliked the whole female anatomy and puberty. I really am a boy. Up until this day I still haven’t told my Christian parents after the last time, and I’m still bothered by it, because my younger sister came out as lesbian two years later and my parents were fine with it. Now only my friends call me by my name and correct pronouns and they help me a lot, so I’m grateful for that. I hope that one day I’ll be exactly how I see myself. (Male [FtM]/16/Pansexual)
Story #2388
When I came out at 13 my brother and my cousin were the first people I told. My mom didn’t believe me at first. We were arguing in my room about something really stupid and she said, “Once you get a husband…” and I was so full of that husband and boyfriend thing so I shouted back, “What if I will have a girlfriend?” And she looked at me shockingly and then said, “What do you mean?” So I explained to her that I am bi but she didn’t believe me because she thought it’s just a phase and because it’s “trendy”. In the next 2 years I came out twice more but whenever we start that talk she pretends like she doesn’t care and is kind of supporting but I know that she secretly hopes it’s just a phase. I am pan now but I tell her I am bi cuz it’s easier to explain lol. (F/16/Pansexual)
Story #2370
When I came out to my friends as pansexual, they were all supportive, being that most of them were already part of it. I’m still questioning right now and haven’t come out to anyone else, but I’m glad to have some of the people I care about most on my side. (Demisexual pansexual)
Story #2365
When I first came out I was 12-13 years old. I came out as bisexual and my parents and friends supported me really well, but only last year I came out as transgender. My friends really supported me and had my back because some of them were a part/allies of the lgbtq+ which made things easier. Here comes the tricky part: I had sorted out a huge letter for my parents via text. Keep in my mind that my dad is Jewish, so when I came out I got a very silent response, which I had expected. My mum, on the other hand, helped be who I am but she never fully accepted me or she never said and would say things like “No, you’re not, you’re a girl” …etc etc. Fast forward to now, I think I might be pansexual/bisexual but I don’t know yet and I’m hoping that one day I can decide. (FtM/16/Pansexual/transgender/bisexual/questioning)
Story #2351
When I came out as pansexual, I told two of my friends first, because they were interviewing me (I interviewed another friend and found out they were non-binary) and asked about my sexuality. While I was extremely nervous, these two friends are also LGBTQ+, and I knew they would be supportive. As expected they were, and accepted me immediately. Because of this positive experience, I was able to come out to most of my other friends, many of which are also LGBTQ+, but I still have not come out to my parents. (Demigirl/Pansexual)
Story #2341
When I came out I told my aunt first cuz she is also part of the LGBTQA+ and than I told my grandparents and cousin and they was happy for me. When I came out to my parents they told me I have to be straight or I will get kicked out. I told them no cuz they can’t control me for ever. They did kick me out after so I was living with my aunt for the longest time I could remember. 2 years later my parents finally love me for me and let me move back in. They even threw a party to celebrate my move in and my sexuality. (13/Bi, Pan, and Poly)
Story #2340
When I came out I wrote a letter to my mom. She asked me to come speak to her. She said she thinks I’m just doing it for attention and I’m such an attention seeker. Really, I have always hated being a girl and everyone just thought I was a big tomboy. Besides what my mom says, I dress as a very flamboyant boy now as that’s what I prefer. I want to cut my hair to a buzz cut desperately but my mom won’t let me 🙁 Anyways, hopefully when I leave home I can get top surgery and start T (M/15/Pansexual)