When I came out to myself in September 2022 I thought I was Bi and then later I went to thinking I was Gay then Poly then I started to realize I wasn’t Male and identified as NB for some time then I found that I was Very Feminine so I went to thinking I was a Demi-girl then to knowing I am a Trans Female and Pansexual. And I made this because I wanted to share part of the process of Discovery that comes with being LGBTQ+ (Trans MtF/11/Pansexual)
Story #2629
When I came out, it was only to my parents, since two kids at school were getting bullied for being lesbian and the principal was against the LGBTQ+ community. Since coming out as pansexual and nonbinary, I’ve been trying to find ways to tell my long-distance friend in North Carolina and ways to tell my two closest friends via letters once I move. Downstate instead of in the UP, I hope to find support in my new middle school and to be celebrated. There are still going to be hurdles, but I can face them better knowing that my parents have my back always. (Nonbinary/agender/11/Pansexual)
Story #2623
When I came out my school was very homophobic. I got treated like crap for a long time, and my family refused to say anything about it in my house, but then I found a local GSA and made so many friends who support me unconditionally. Now I have a girlfriend and I am fully out! 😀 (Non-binary/12/Pansexual)
Story #2617
When I came out my parents just said it’s a phase and kind of just ignored me and my life. I had to celebrate pride month closeted. It hasn’t really gotten better. (F/13/Pansexual)
Story #2611
When I came out, me and my older cousin, who was also closeted, decided to come out at the same time. We went to the family room and I told my family that I was pansexual and they accepted me. My cousin, on the other hand, was faced with discrimination and disgust, for they came out as non-binary. My family erupted in an argument and after a few weeks, my older cousin came to live with us. Now, me and my cousin spend every single day together and enjoy each other’s company. (M/12/Pansexual)
Story #2606
When I came out I was in 7th grade. I have never been the best at communicating but I somehow managed to build enough confidence to write a paper to my mom saying I was a lesbian. When I came home she was mad that I didn’t tell her in person. She said she was supportive but it didn’t feel like it. Then I came out to her again this year as pan, poly, and non-binary. She is fine and supportive with everything but me being poly. She says it’s disgraceful to be poly. (Non-binary/16/Pan and poly)
Story #2604
When I came out to my best friend it was mainly to ask their advice about wearing a binder safely. I trusted they’d provide a safe space for me without judgment, but because I was only just starting to really explore and admit these feelings to myself, I had convinced myself I’d never be believed; that I must be some kind of imposter because I’ve always presented so femme. Since then I’ve come out to one more friend as well, and both of them have stunned me with how affirming they were — it seems they knew before I even really did! I feel like it’s enough for me to have their support for now — I can wait before coming out to more difficult people such as my family, it just means the world to me to have one or two friends who truly support me expressing and exploring my gender fluidity. (AFAB/29/Bi/pan)
Story #2598
When I came out, it was terribly hard. I first came out as pansexual to my parents, and they both accepted me, But when I came out to my friends, they just walked away. I don’t know if they accepted me or not, but they’ll walk away whenever I am near them. (F/14/Pansexual)
Story #2595
When I came out, it wasn’t really planned. I was on my PC in my gaming room; me and a mate were talking about my orientation while we were gaming. While we were doing so I didn‘t hear my dad coming home from work and probably listen to our conversation. Later while we were eating dinner he asked me if I was bisexual. He looked at me with that expression he would usually use when I did something wrong. He kept on asking until I gave in and told him that I was demiboy and pansexual. He was confused at first so I had to explain it to him. I didn’t expect him to be this supportive but he was. He even told me he would buy me my flags and learn more about Lgbt so he can take part in my conversations. (M He/they/15/Pan)
Story #2590
When I came out the first time, I told my mom I was bi, because she’d asked if was gay, and I wasn’t ready to tell her, so I panicked. When I got to college, I finally told her I was a lesbian, but she questioned it because she didn’t think I’d ever been with anyone sexually, so how could I possibly know? I’d always been pretty masculine, but it was the mid-90s, and I’d come from a long line of tomboys who’d turned out straight, so she didn’t think I was any different. There was little info about trans-people readily available at the time — even Google was brand new! — and I was almost out of college before I ever met a trans-person, or understood that there were people who felt like me, who’d spent their entire lives trying to figure out why nothing ever felt right. I married a woman when I was 23, but it would be a few more years before I’d hit a wall and realize I needed to transition for my sanity’s sake. My wife and I have been together for over 20 years, my family has been 1000% supportive, and transitioning saved my life. (FtM/44/Pan)