Male Coming Out Stories

When I came out it was to my friends and little brother. It was Christmas evening and we had just finished hanging out and exchanging gifts, and as they were leaving they were talking about girls or something and then one of them asked if I was straight. I looked at them blankly, not knowing what to say, but I knew I couldn’t say yes ’cause it would be obvious I was unsure or lying. Then I said, “I guess I’m coming out now.” They were all surprised but really accepting. They acted like they didn’t care but in a good way. I was really happy that night and fell asleep with a smile on my face. But the best part is that I don’t have to lie or be uncomfortable when they ask if I like this girl or if I think this girl is cute or something. (M/19/Gay)

When I came out it was to a theatre group chat. I basically said, “Guys, I found Narnia!” And someone asked “Where?” And so I said, “In the closet. Surprise, I’m gay!” And everyone was really accepting! Still haven’t told my family though, haha. (M/15/Gay)

When I came out on the 22nd to my parents, they didn’t accept that I was gay. They blamed it on “hormones” and that I’m “only 15.” It really made me sad and is still hurting me; living a lie and hating myself is not fun. I wish they were more accepting. [I’ve told a friend at school, a cousin, a sibling, and 2 other people irl] (M/15/Gay)

When I came out was when I got together with my boyfriend. We had been flirting earlier in the day and became a thing over text. That night, my dad saw our texts and figured out everything and forced me to out myself to my mom. I came out to my friends at lunch the next day when he visited me while skipping out on his class. My friends have been nothing but fun and supportive and I am so happy that I have them. (M/14/Gay)

When I came out it was to my cousin. He and I were very close; we consider ourselves brothers. I knew without a doubt that he’d accept me. We even talked once that we would if one of us turned out to be gay. When I did he was ecstatic and so proud that I embraced who I truly was. Now on to my parents! (M/18/Gay)

When I came out it wasn’t my decision to come out. It was either come out myself or be outed by someone who read some lyrics I wrote. I wasn’t ready even though I had known for 9 years. I still was in doubt of who I was or what my sexuality was… so I came out as bisexual to my mum and on social media even though I’m gay. I didn’t expect to receive so much love from people. So I guess there is a happy ending to my story. (M/17/Gay)

When I came out, it was to my mother when I was 16. I told her when we were in the kitchen. I said, “Mom, you say I can always talk to you, no matter what, right?” and then tried to tell her. I was hesitating, but she convinced me to tell her and so I did. I was so afraid to ruin our relationship, but she was super supportive and I feel like our bond is stronger than ever before. (M/18/Gay)

When I came out it was to my dad on the ride with him to work. I wanted to wait until after so it wouldn’t be awkward while we worked but I knew that I would wuss out if I didn’t say it then. He was accepting and said he would always love me, but his personal views on homosexuality are upsetting. In the end I’m glad he still loves me, and our relationship is fine now. I can breathe easier around him. Only mom is left to tell, then I’m fully out. (M/17/Gay)