When I came out I wrote a message to share with close friends and family first via text while I was on vacation for a week. Soon after, I posted my message to facebook for everyone to see. It was easier for me to come out all at once than having to deal with coming out to each person in my life, plus doing it while I was away gave time for people to digest it before facing them. This way may not be right for everyone, but there was a ton of relief in pulling the band-aid off all at once, especially for someone like myself who isn’t the most emotionally forthcoming. I had some really great conversations with the people after I posted it, and have never felt better. (M/25)
Story #2307
When I came out I had been questioning my gender identity for a long time. I was born a girl but never connected with it. People always thought of me as a lesbian tomboy and nothing more but when I learned about being trans and what it was I realized that I wasn’t a girl. However I was still very confused and scared so instead of making the jump to being a trans guy I waited and stuck with the term non-binary (but as you can tell it wasn’t the right fit). After a lot of thought I came out to my parents over dinner. I was nervous even though it was my third time. Overall I have been accepted by my family and friends. Along with this hope to take steps to medically transition. (M/13/Trans (FtM)/straight? bi?)
Story #2298
When I came out, I came out as bi at first, then a year later I found that I’m actually pansexual. My mom, dad, brothers, and sister were supportive of me. After coming out, I felt a huge relief like a weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Now I’m living a happy life and dating the man of my dreams. (M/36/Pansexual)
Story #2293
When I came out, it was at a Halsey concert in 2018. I was with my twin brother and his girlfriend. She said to yell if you were lgbtq+, and I yelled. My brother and his girlfriend were SHOCKED. They asked me what I was and I said I was gay. The first thing my brother said was “omg this all makes sense now, I’ve always wanted a gay bro”. On the other hand, his girlfriend won’t talk to me any more. (M/19/Gay as hell)
Story #2272
When I came out, my friends were super supportive, my family not so much. My mum slowly started to support me and is now ok with me starting hormones, but my Christian dad isn’t and refuses to use my name and pronouns. He also is very against me starting my medical transition. It’s a struggle every day, and I know he doesn’t mean me any harm but I wish he understood that I would feel a lot less suicidal if he just accepted me for me. (M/16)
Story #2263
When I came out, my parents and family didn’t accept me for who I was. They said I wasn’t worth living and an ungrateful piece of s**t. I didn’t care what they said. Even though what they told me hurt, I still loved my parents. And I still didn’t care; I love myself and they have to respect my decision. (M/13/Gay/bi)
Story #2258
When I came out was actually just 30 minutes ago to my grandma. She texted me an artist whose name was Angelina Jordan and said it was her favorite artist. Then she proceeded to say, “I love listening to her when I feel a little extra bi.” She also said that many in our family were bi and that she loved me. So basically my grandma came out to me and I was like f it and I told her I was demi and trans. We then texted a little more and she said she knew since I was 3. I’ve always been scared to tell my grandparents but I now know they’ll always love me. (M/13/Demisexual/transgender)
Story #2257
When I came out at age 12 to my mom and siblings it wasn’t direct, but later my mom got me an apointment to talk to a specialist about how I felt. Even though it’s been almost over two years now and I’m waiting for my next appointment with someone who might be able to get me started on T and get top surgery, my mom still misgenders me and deadnames me, which has taken a toll on my mental health. But I’ve finally found a friend who doesn’t misgender me and tries his best at not deadnaming me. (M/13/Demisexual/transgender)
Story #2244
When I came out, I studied in an all boys, Catholic private school. I was closeted and scared at the time. I wanted it to get off my chest so I told my best friend that I was bi. Then he said, “So am I.” I was so shocked and happy I wasn’t alone. (M/13/Bisexual)
Story #2237
When I came out, it was to my friends. My girlfriend at the time came out as trans, and I had known that I’d been trans for a pretty long time. I told my friend group. Mostly everyone accepted me, which made me so happy. I go by Matt now, instead of my deadname. But one of my nonsupportive friends keep asking me why I keep trying to be a dude. They shall never know UvU (Male [FtM]/16/Bisexual)