When I came out as genderfluid my parent said it was just a phrase and I was a tomboy and they deadname me and still call me a girl and use she/her pronouns, so I am forced to live a gender I am not. But I’m lucky as my friend is trans and one is a demi girl so they support me but people still make fun of my name. So will I ever be myself in front of them? (Genderfluid/Lithromantic/poly/aromantic/asexual)
Story #2604
When I came out to my best friend it was mainly to ask their advice about wearing a binder safely. I trusted they’d provide a safe space for me without judgment, but because I was only just starting to really explore and admit these feelings to myself, I had convinced myself I’d never be believed; that I must be some kind of imposter because I’ve always presented so femme. Since then I’ve come out to one more friend as well, and both of them have stunned me with how affirming they were — it seems they knew before I even really did! I feel like it’s enough for me to have their support for now — I can wait before coming out to more difficult people such as my family, it just means the world to me to have one or two friends who truly support me expressing and exploring my gender fluidity. (AFAB/29/Bi/pan)
Story #2589
When I came out it was first to my best friend, who always knew I was nonconforming (even before I ever came to know it). She wasn’t surprised and was really accepting and always has, embracing my gender expression regardless of how it is. (Genderfluid/20/Bisexual)
Story #2562
When I came out as bisexual I was 18 years old. My mom didn’t believe me. Nowadays she does and calls my bisexuality, “sexual urges”. My dad and my siblings accept me as a bisexual. Recently I figured out that I am gender fluid. Most days I feel like a guy. Other days I feel like a girl. My dad accepts me but he is still processing that I am gender fluid because I told him yesterday. I came out to my older brother and he accepts me. All I have to do is tell my sisters. (F/24/Bisexual/genderfluid)
Story #2529
When I came out a month or two ago, I told two friends of mine that my pronouns were he/she and thought nothing more of it. Then, a little more than a week ago, one of those friends referred to me as ‘he’ in front of some other friends, and those friends asked me my pronouns and I said he/she and told them I was genderfluid. We talked about our own gender journeys (pretty much all my friends are queer and a couple of them aren’t cis) and it was super chill and I felt super good. I’m so happy to have such amazing and supportive friends and I hope you have a great day! (Genderfluid/14/Aroace)
Story #2528
When I came out I was 11. At that time I identified as pansexual and had posted about it online. My parents, being overprotective, read it. Later, at a sleepover one September 15, my (lesbian) friend dared me to officially come out, as my parents hadn’t said anything on the topic. We made a little sign saying “am pansexual. – [deadname]”. (Transmasc/genderfluid/nonbinary/Pomoromantic/asexual/aro-spec)
Story #2512
When I came out, it was to my parents. They had known I was questioning my sexuality, but they didn’t exactly like it. I had made comments about me being aroace, but every time had felt like I was being judged for bringing it up so often (actually about once a month — and I’m aroace year round lol), and that my parents didn’t approve. I finally had another comment, and afterward I told my mom that I felt like I was not allowed to talk about my sexuality. They had made it clear that aroace was approvable because I’m not attracted to girls, but still not as good as straight (little do they know I’m pan oriented). (Non-binary trans masc/15/Trans non-binary gender-fluid pan-oriented aroace)
Story #2478
When I came out, it was to my friend who had previously come out to me as bi, and who knew I was aroace. I casually asked her if she used trans people’s real pronouns or not, which she did. I then added on that I use my name instead of pronouns. She accepted me for who I am, which I really appreciated. I also later joined a pride group chat, and might invite my friend as well. (Trans Nonbinary Bigender [Agender and Genderfluid]/15/ Aromantic Asexual Trans Nonbinary Pangender Genderfluid Agender Bigender)
Story #2454
When I came out, it was really scary. I had other gender-queer friends, and my parents called them by their preferred names and pronouns, so how hard could it be? I had spent all day writing “I am genderfluid and I like girls” out of lego, on a huge lego base-plate. When the time finally came, I called my dad into my room, and whipped the sign from the its hiding place. Turns out he (and my mum) already knew! The next day, they both called me into their room “to have a little chat”. Turns out all they wanted to do was literally pry every last detail out of me. I couldn’t help but cry, as they kept asking, asking, asking. Now, a few months later, they still won’t let me buy any gender-neutral or boy clothes, and are actually against me getting anything that relates to pride. I tried to make my room (which was annoying girly) more gender-neutral, but all my parents did was question every item I hid, or threw away. So now, I live my life constantly having to pretend I’m something I’m not, without enough courage to tell them anything truthful ever again. (Genderfluid/Omniromantic [I think])
Story #2447
When I came out for the first time, I was 12 and came out to my good friend about being pan. She is cishet, and was and still is really Christian. I told her and she said, “Isn’t (insert friend’s name here) gay too?” I didn’t know that, and we have been friends since she moved to where I live at 4. I go ask them, she apparently uses she/they and is lesbian. THEY DIDN’T TELL ME! So I came out to them, and she called me gay. We haven’t talked in 2 months, since she moved. I also came out as genderfluid to my transmasc friend today and he replied “forg” (I sent a genderfluid frog) (Genderfluid/14/Pan/mono)