When I came out, my mum brushed past it and ended up outing me to a close friend of hers. My mum told me that it was just a phase and I’d get past it. This was years ago, and I am still so full of hurt and dysphoria but I’m coping. I still haven’t really told any of my friends yet because I’m scared I’ll get hurt too. (Genderfluid/15/Asexual)
Story #2627
When I first came out I had already created many scenarios of how I could do it. But my mother and father noticed that I had been overwhelmed for some months (I was a sixth grader). I told them I didn’t really understand if I could really label my gender identity because it kept unstable. But they were quite accepting. As for sexuality I only came out at 17. I had hinted to them many times before through jokes and would make it quite obvious for my sister so she could also help me. The Aroace part wasn’t as good as I would like to be but with time they stopped. I had told to my closest friends as they were some type of gay magnet; as a result my friends were usually queer weirdos so it turned out better. (Genderfluid/23/Aroace)
Story #2624
When I came out, I wasn’t really accepted at first. My parents weren’t homophobic or anything, but I felt like they didn’t believe me. I had lots of friend groups and I never really felt like they ever really respected me. The first time I really felt seen and accepted, we had just gotten to the second half of the school year and my lunch schedule changed. I saw some kids I thought might be cool to hang out with and asked if I could sit with them. It turned out that one of them was aromantic and the other was genderfluid and omnisexual. At that point I kinda went “me too!”. They were really cool about it and it made me happy that it wasn’t being treated like a phase or something anymore. Since then I’ve had some great support systems, which has really helped me through some stuff. (Genderfluid/pangender/Aegosexual/biromantic)
Story #2619
When I came out to my best friend, I was really nervous. I wrote a letter and gave it to her. Then I ignored her for the next thirty minutes. She asked if it was real, and then was really supportive. I haven’t come out to my parents yet but hopefully this summer. (AFAB/12/Genderfluid/demigirl/bisexual)
Story #2618
When I came out as non-binary, my girlfriend at the time talked about how I seemed so masculine and that using the non-binary label was just a fad. She is queer so I was hoping that over time she would grow to accept it, but the opposite happened. I was lucky to have a remote job so I could move out to be with family who still struggle with pronouns but accept me. I still struggle to understand my own gender fluidity because my gender feelings have always been strong, but feel like they change on a dime. At this point I’m out as non-binary though I don’t pass yet and the fluidity is not a thing I understand how to talk generally. However, this is the first time in my life that feels like I’m loving it in a way that is authentic to myself, and if you relate to my story at all, please be brave! ❤️ (Non-binary/genderfluid/27/Bisexual/demi-sexual/polyamorous)
Story #2613
When I came out as genderfluid my parent said it was just a phrase and I was a tomboy and they deadname me and still call me a girl and use she/her pronouns, so I am forced to live a gender I am not. But I’m lucky as my friend is trans and one is a demi girl so they support me but people still make fun of my name. So will I ever be myself in front of them? (Genderfluid/Lithromantic/poly/aromantic/asexual)
Story #2604
When I came out to my best friend it was mainly to ask their advice about wearing a binder safely. I trusted they’d provide a safe space for me without judgment, but because I was only just starting to really explore and admit these feelings to myself, I had convinced myself I’d never be believed; that I must be some kind of imposter because I’ve always presented so femme. Since then I’ve come out to one more friend as well, and both of them have stunned me with how affirming they were — it seems they knew before I even really did! I feel like it’s enough for me to have their support for now — I can wait before coming out to more difficult people such as my family, it just means the world to me to have one or two friends who truly support me expressing and exploring my gender fluidity. (AFAB/29/Bi/pan)
Story #2589
When I came out it was first to my best friend, who always knew I was nonconforming (even before I ever came to know it). She wasn’t surprised and was really accepting and always has, embracing my gender expression regardless of how it is. (Genderfluid/20/Bisexual)
Story #2562
When I came out as bisexual I was 18 years old. My mom didn’t believe me. Nowadays she does and calls my bisexuality, “sexual urges”. My dad and my siblings accept me as a bisexual. Recently I figured out that I am gender fluid. Most days I feel like a guy. Other days I feel like a girl. My dad accepts me but he is still processing that I am gender fluid because I told him yesterday. I came out to my older brother and he accepts me. All I have to do is tell my sisters. (F/24/Bisexual/genderfluid)
Story #2529
When I came out a month or two ago, I told two friends of mine that my pronouns were he/she and thought nothing more of it. Then, a little more than a week ago, one of those friends referred to me as ‘he’ in front of some other friends, and those friends asked me my pronouns and I said he/she and told them I was genderfluid. We talked about our own gender journeys (pretty much all my friends are queer and a couple of them aren’t cis) and it was super chill and I felt super good. I’m so happy to have such amazing and supportive friends and I hope you have a great day! (Genderfluid/14/Aroace)