When I came out, to my friends at least, I was welcomed with nothing but love and support. Though I maintain a heterosexual relationship and claim bisexuality, I realize I cannot force myself to do this forever. Someday soon, I will HAVE to be completely transparent with boyfriend, my mother, and most importantly, myself. This will change my entire life, and that terrifies me. All I have to say is “I’m gay,” but just the thought of accomplishing that makes me want to hide. (F/23/Gay)
Story #1794
When I came out I turned 13 about a week earlier. I am only out to my dad (3 months later), but it was around 11 pm on a school night and it was very emotional. I kept saying things like, “what if you don’t get it,” or “what if you don’t like it.” It didn’t help that he was already tired from work, so after many tears and about 30 minutes, I texted him and said, “I’m not straight.” He mentions it from time to time when we’re alone and stated how he knew, etc. (F/13/Queer)
Story #1793
When I came out, I was walking my friend back to her house after we had hung out. My sister had just had her birthday party, and I had been allowed to invite one friend. At one point in the sleepover, we had been sitting in my sister’s closet playing some random games on her phone, and I’m pretty sure she and her friends had forgotten we were in there, so we got all the tea on all their crushes. So, as we were walking back, we were laughing about how boring they were because they were all straight. I said, “Unlike me.” She laughed and replied with (jokingly), “I feel like you kinda just date everything. The tree, the grass, whatever.” And I just said, “Well, I am gay.” She just looked at me and said, “Ok, cool.” Honestly, I kinda expected that to be her reaction. (F/16/Lesbian)
Story #1788
When I came out, it was to a few friends at first. I also came out as bisexual then. They were all super supportive and loving. Once I got to college and thought about dating, I realized I was solely thinking about dating women, so I shot a text to my friends to update them on the change. (They were all still super supportive!). This semester ends in about 3 weeks, and I plan to come out to my parents when I get home. They’re amazing parents and I don’t doubt that they’ll be okay with my sexuality, but I know they’re going to be really confused because I’ve had boyfriends in the past. Wish me luck! (F/18/Lesbian)
Story #1787
When I came out, I had already come out as “Bisexual” two years before when I thought my reality was that. When I realized that I’m gay, I talked with a close friend and she gave me some advices. The next day my mom was asking me, “If you’re Bi, why do you only date women?” And I told her I’m a homo. She wasn’t surprised at all. In the same week I came out officially as a lesbian on my Twitter and posted the same thing on Instagram as well. Two weeks ago I came out to my grandparents and they’re still trying to accept it. (F/17/Lesbian)
Story #1785
When I came out over text to my dance team, I was terrified. I got an idea from this website to text the group telling them that I found Narnia and when one of them said where (which they did) I would say, “In the closet surprise I’m bi.” Things went well; I had to do a little explaining but that’s ok. The only negative is that one of the girls hasn’t replied at all, which is unlike her. I don’t know what to think. (F/14/Bi)
Story #1783
When I came out I was hanging out with my cousin. We were talking with my step-sister (she’s bi) on the phone. I had been thinking about coming out to my cousin for a while and when we got off the phone I just looked at her and said, “I’m bi.” She smiled and said, “Cool, me too.” Next is the Christian parents! (F/15/Bisexual)
Story #1782
When I came out, I first told my sister, brother, and a few friends that I was gay, and even though it was very obvious they would be accepting, coming out to my parents was the hardest part. It was 11 o’clock at night and I had a track meet the next day, but I was watching my dad working and knew that I should tell him then, no matter how long the conversation would be. When I walked over and told him, he looked very surprised for a few seconds and then he immediately got up and hugged me, telling me he loved me while I was crying from how relieved I was. Then he woke up my mom and all three of us were in my room talking about how I could be anything I wanted to be in life and that sexuality is an important, but small part of you, that does not define what kind of person you are. Ever since that night, three days ago, I have been way happier about myself, even if I haven’t completely come out yet, but I plan to soon! (F/16/Gay)
Story #1781
When I came out it was simply me deciding that I had dropped so many hints and that if it was not obvious enough at this point, I may as well just put it out there. I told all of my closest friends and got a great amount of support. My mom opened my phone to see messages between my friend and me after I came out, and that’s when I had to tell my parents that I was bi. The first response: “So you like girls now?” smh. It’s not like I’ve felt this way for years, nooo! (F/16/Bi)
Story #1780
When I came out, first I thought I was bisexual. But with growing crushes on girls, no longer boys, it was apparent that I was lesbian. During a program, we played a game where we put anonymous slips of paper into a box responding to the prompt: “If people really knew me, they would know…” I put: If people really knew me, they would know that I’m lesbian and scared to come out. Ever since, people have tried to guess who it was, but no one except my very close friends knows that the anonymous gay is me 🙂 (F/13/Lesbian)