When I came out I was not too prepared, as I was originally going to tell only one friend. The other three I was with came over and so l thought, now or never. I decided to have a bit of fun and build my confidence so I played a guessing game. Eventually one said, “Oh, so you’re gay?” So I nodded. One of my other friends is homophobic so I can’t tell her. (F/Lesbian)
Story #1905
When I came out, I had been dating this girl for a month, and my mother decided to check my messages (she was paying for my phone)… and she saw my text messages for the last 4 days. She was supporting and caring about it… howeeeeveeeer, my mother had me break up with her and I explained to my girlfriend what happened and she understood. I’m not allowed to have my phone back till I have my mom’s trust (I’ve been distant). (F/12/Lesbian/Nonbinary(I have not told my mom yet TwT))
Story #1903
When I came out sophomore year of high school, it wasn’t something I planned for, but rather something my parents found out about on their own by way of a love letter. As strong Christians, they were extremely offended, warning me that I would be sent to Hell for my feelings and threatening to send me to conversion camp, have meetings with church leaders and attend therapy to fix my “illness”. Due to everything surrounding this, I ultimately made the choice to throw myself back into a closeted lifestyle for the remainder of my time spent living at home. However, as I still maintain contact with the same girl with which this all began, I plan to move out for college and reunite with her. My only worry now is rehashing the sexuality conversation with my parents and the idea of them disowning me because of who I choose to be with… (F/18/Demiromantic bisexual)
Story #1901
When I came out for the first time, I was at a sleepover with two of my best friends. They had gotten in a fight for some reason I can’t remember, and one of them, we’ll call her E, was sobbing next to me while the other one, who we’ll call A, went outside. I don’t remember all the details since its been over a year now, but we started talking about our personal issues and I ended up blurting out that I was gay. Luckily she’s very accepting and she even told me she was bi too! Like I said, it’s been over a year now and I’ve came out to all of my close friends personally, and posted a coming out post on Instagram to come out to other people that I don’t talk to that much 🙂 (F/14/Lesbian)
Story #1900
When I came out, I was lucky enough to be supported by almost everyone. One of my best friends and I were figuring out our sexualities at the same time, around our last year of high school, and when she came out to me as bi, it gave me the final push to realise I was bi too. I told my sister and friends first, then my parents a couple of months later, when the new year came around. I got into college already comfortable with my identity, met an amazing group of friends who are mostly LGBTQA+, and finally, three years ago, I posted a long statement to my Facebook profile on Pride Day, which was an indirect way to come out to my distant relatives and acquaintances. I think coming out is a process that never really ends, as you meet new people and get into new environments throughout your life, but my experiences have been very positive so far, and I know the allies I have met along the way will help make it even easier every time I have to do it again in the future. (F/21/Bi demiromantic)
Story #1896
When I came out it was because my mom asked about what made me decide to get my hair cut the way it is. I told her the truth because I didn’t wanna keep it in anymore. I had talked to my favorite teacher (rossy ik ur reading this lmao) earlier that week & he helped me realize who I was. But anyways, my mom didn’t say anything against it but idk if she would be considered accepting. She basically just said things that made it seem like I was confused & wanted attention & that she has had times where she thought a girl was attractive & that just because I had bad experiences with guys didn’t mean I was a lesbian. She told me that she didn’t care who I love & if I truly was a lesbian then she’d accept it. I ended up crying myself to sleep that night. (F/17/Lesbian/Gay)
Story #1892
When I came out to my community as a whole (I was already out to a few friends, who were bi themselves), I was a freshman in college. One friend messaged the group chat, saying, “I had a dream last night that [me] was gay!” I just replied, “Can confirm, am gay.” Everyone took it well, since the group was already probably about 50% LGBTQ+. (F/19/Lesbian)
Story #1891
When I came out, my twin sister was the first person I told. I thought she would accept me for being who I am, but she started calling me a faggot and other mean words. She was yelling at me and said that I was going to hell. Being the loud person she is, my mother heard and rushed into our room. My twin said everything to her, and surprisingly my mother accepted me. I’m now a proud lesbian that is no longer hiding in the closet! My twin sister still hates me, but she is still stuck with me for at least four years more so I guess she has to get used to the fact that i like girls. (F/15/Lesbian)
Story #1890
When I came out to my mother as a lesbian I was fifteen. She didn’t say anything against it, but she wasn’t exactly accepting it. Once my best friend sent me a meme and it contained a girl that moaned. Me as a lesbian with full volume and an «unaccepting» mother had the worst panick attack ever. I heard my mother rush upstairs and busted open my door. She said: «Are you watching porn!?» and I freaked out and had to explain to her. I showed her the video and we shared a good laugh. I’m now 19 and live with my girlfriend and my mom is fully accepting me. (F/19/Lesbian)
Story #1889
When I came out to a girl at school, all I did was say “me too” when she said she liked girls. She asked if we could date and I said no. She asked again another day and I told her I would think about it. I wonder if I should go for it? (F/Lesbian)