Bisexual Coming Out Stories

When I came out, I basically tried to say as little as possible. My best friend is from an anti-lgbt religion, and while I knew she would be happy for me, after about an hour of “Are you sure?” and trying to explain that yes, I liked guys, I gave up trying and left it at “I have a girlfriend now.” She was super sweet, even though she seemed confused by the concept of bisexuality, and very supportive. I ended up coming out to my parents with just the girlfriend part as well because I was worried that my mom would keep trying to get me a boyfriend (and they are also religious). I still feel weird about it because I basically just let them all assume that I’m a lesbian, even though I’m really careful not to call myself one because I’m not “fully gay” and don’t even label myself gay because of it… (F/22/Bisexual)

When I came out I was at camp and realized I liked a girl. I sent my friend a letter about her. When I got back I was really nervous to see her reaction. Thankfully she accepted me and made me feel more certain about myself. (F/12/Bi)

When I came out, we were playing truth or dare at lunch and one girl asked me who I liked. I liked a girl, and I was very hesitant to tell her because we weren’t very close and I was afraid she’d have a negative reaction. Eventually, I told her that it wasn’t a guy. She replied with, “Awww, that’s sweet.” She was really supportive about it, and promised not to tell anyone. (F/13/Bi)

When I came out, I came out first to my best friend as bi last spring. This year she kissed some girl at homecoming and I asked her about and she told me she was bi too. I’m finally starting to feel comfortable being me. I haven’t officially come out to my parents but they are super accepting. (F/15/Bisexual)

When I came out a week ago to some of my friends, they were supportive. Now that I am sure that I am bisexual and I told my mom last night. She told me that she already suspected it and she just wanted me to be happy. Although, she had a hard time understanding what bisexual really meant. Through it all, I’m pretty happy that I came out and I plan to tell the rest of my school tomorrow. (F/11/Bi)

When I came out, it was to my best friend. I texted him that I had seen a very cute girl earlier, as in “I like her-cute.” He was so enthusiastic! I told my other best friend the same evening, also over text. I knew both of them would accept and love me, as they are both gay. We talked about it in real life the next day, and they were so sweet! At the moment, I’m out to my three best friends. I’m not planning to tell my parents anytime soon, even though I know they would be accepting, because I just don’t feel comfortable enough to talk about my sexuality with them. They’ll eventually find out if I’ll ever have a girlfriend. (F/17/Bi)

When I came out it was in the sixth grade, and I texted my best friend on kik saying something akin to “dude i think i like girls”. She came out to me at the same time, and her support and presence helped me to avoid the type of shame and fear that most other people feel in this process. Although I’m not fully out yet, I’ve continued to come out to individual friends through the years. (F/16/Bi)

When I came out, it was in summer school and the principal called me to his office. I was really scared because I thought I was going to be in trouble but I went anyways. When I got there he was in there with the SCHOOL POLICE OFFICER. They said that somebody had told them that I was making fun of some girls because they were lesbian, and I said, “Why would I do that? I’m bisexual myself!” They just stared at me in awe. Later that day I had found out that they had called my mom and they had told her that I was bisexual. She looked at me and simply said, “You don’t know what you’re talking about.” (F/12)