Bisexual Coming Out Stories

When I came out to myself, I cried. I was reading a book with a lesbian couple, and I found myself thinking, “This is what I want.” I didn’t tell anyone until towards the start of 8th grade when I told my mom, almost by accident. I’m incredibly lucky that my mom is extremely liberal, so I just told her off-hand when she was talking to her sister on the phone. She’s been super helpful since then. However, coming out to other people since then has been terribly hard. At my school, there’s an underlying homophobia that detracts me from telling my friends. Only three friends know, two of which (including my crush) I told on accident, the other guessed. Every day I feel like I’m lying to myself, not telling people. But I’m sure that someday, I’ll find my courage, and I encourage you to find yours. (F/13/Bisexual)

When I came out I was crying because of how depressed I was, and my parents were mad because I wasn’t telling them what was going on. Then I finally told them and my sister and started crying even more. They said they still loved me and will support me no matter what. Now, my parents and 15-year-old sister know, and about eight of my friends know. I am planning on telling more people in around 8th grade. (F/12/Bisexual)

When I came out it was so scary. I did it over Snapchat to a girl that I hadn’t known for that long and she was so supportive. I came out to another friend and I had a lot of trouble saying that I was bi out loud, but she already knew, which I was very happy about it. There is only one experience for me that was bad; it was just the way my friend acted and she is bi herself. Anyway, now I have come out to all my friends and family and I am so very glad that I have. Most of the time I just call myself gay because I am into girls way more than I am guys hahaha (F/16/Bisexual)

When I came out… I stressed out about it for years before finally telling my friend. She was so supportive and I felt like I was free. We made a whole plan for me to tell my parents but I ended up just telling them a few days later. It felt like a huge weight off my chest 🙂 (F/16/Bi)

When I came out to my cousin brother, we were watching a show and a character came out as bi. I said, “Same” without thinking, and as soon as I realised I had come out I burst out crying. He was really accepting and sweet about the whole thing. I couldn’t stop shaking till about half an hour later, though. (F/16/Bisexual)

When I came out to my friend, I told her I was bi-curious. She had a brother who is bisexual, so I knew I could trust her. I slipped her a note in class, and she just nodded her head. I know I’m full-out bisexual now, and I told most of my friends (they’re very accepting). I don’t tell on telling my parents anytime soon, though. (F/11/Bisexual)

When I came out I first told my friend (who everyone thinks is gay). I wrote him a whole front and back letter, but he only read the first two words saying, “I’m Bisexual” and gave me back the letter like I asked. He said he didn’t care. And now, a few months later, I plan on telling my friends when I get back to school from winter break. But I don’t plan on telling my family for a while. (F/13/Bisexual)

When I came out, I basically tried to say as little as possible. My best friend is from an anti-lgbt religion, and while I knew she would be happy for me, after about an hour of “Are you sure?” and trying to explain that yes, I liked guys, I gave up trying and left it at “I have a girlfriend now.” She was super sweet, even though she seemed confused by the concept of bisexuality, and very supportive. I ended up coming out to my parents with just the girlfriend part as well because I was worried that my mom would keep trying to get me a boyfriend (and they are also religious). I still feel weird about it because I basically just let them all assume that I’m a lesbian, even though I’m really careful not to call myself one because I’m not “fully gay” and don’t even label myself gay because of it… (F/22/Bisexual)

When I came out I was at camp and realized I liked a girl. I sent my friend a letter about her. When I got back I was really nervous to see her reaction. Thankfully she accepted me and made me feel more certain about myself. (F/12/Bi)