When I came out, I handed a note to my friend. I only came out as asexual and she still hasn’t said anything. I am nervous. (F/11/AroAce)
Story #2368
When I came out I opted never to tell anyone about being neutrois because I’ve never been motivated enough to educate everyone about non-binary stuff (I’m out to some as acearo). I joined my uni’s lgbt club and was able to adopt a gender-neutral name and they/them pronouns for the first time. I was able to talk about my gender/orientation and queer issues without worrying about any -phobias or having to educate people. I didn’t realise how much I wanted to hear my proper name and pronouns until it happened. We even marched in a historically huge pride parade. Unfortunately, once the competent leader stepped down the rest proved to be performative, incompetent and ableist towards me, so I bailed at the beginning of quarantine. Still, it made me realise that there are queer communities accessible to me. Hopefully the next one is better. (Neutrosis/26/Asexual aromantic)
Story #2367
When I came out as non-binary, I texted my mum while I was with my friends. It has been stressful but everyone is really supportive and they all try their best to remember my pronouns and new name. I am also out to my friends as asexual/biromantic — they asked me to explain what it meant and once they understood they were both really nice about it. Things are going well now and I’m starting an LGBTQ+ youth group this week, and I plan to tell my parents about my sexuality within a few days 🙂 (Non-binary/13/Asexual/biromantic)
Story #2350
When I came out it was to my sister, first as ace and then as a lesbian. She was a little confused but asked questions and was really supportive. I haven’t told anyone else yet but I do want to tell my parents, only I’m not sure how my Dad will react. He has been a little homophobic in the past. (F/16/Lesbian/ace)
Story #2343
When I came out to my friends as aromantic and asexual, they were extremely nice and supportive (one is bisexual and the other is lesbian/agender). When I came out to my mom, she told my dad (which I was actually kind of grateful for) and they were both pretty nice about it. I told my mom I was girlflux (I’m not anymore) and we talked about it and she didn’t tell my dad. I haven’t officially told my parents that I’m genderfluid and I don’t think that I will. (Genderfluid/Aroace)
Story #2326
When I came out it took a while for my mom to understand, but once she did, she was supportive. Not only that, but she found out that she’s aroace too! Small world… (F/18/Aroace)
Story #2324
When I came out, it was a year ago to my best friend. I said, “ok, I’m bi but minus the guy.” It was so much easier than saying I am a lesbian. We chatted for three hours about it and she helped give me confidence. A few months later I told my family…. Boy, I wish I hadn’t done that. My dad accepted me but kept teasing me about it, and my mother said it would be best if I didn’t tell anyone and that who you love changes over time. It was really difficult time, but my mum has her reasons for not being too pleased. Anyway, from now on I try and help people I know with being honest about their sexuality and identity! (F/15/Lesbian question asexual)
Story #2315
When I came out to my parents, I knew they wouldn’t have a problem with it, because they already knew that several of my friends were queer. When I went to the CSD in a city nearby (which they knew about), I picked up some flyers which explained my sexual orientation and generally different genders and orientations. The next time my parents and sister visited me, I gave them the flyers saying I realized we never really talked about my sexual orientation and it’s probably obvious, but in case they didn’t know yet, I’m asexual. My little sister took the opportunity to tell our parents that she isn’t straight either. (F/19/Asexual)
Story #2313
When I came out for the first time, it was to some people from my year on a school trip. When some of us were talking in the evening, a boy jokingly asked what type of sex I prefer and I answered with “None, actually, considering that I’m asexual”. That was the first time I ever said my sexual orientation out aloud, as I never had to tell my friends because they simply knew. He was just like, “Duh, I know,” and we kept talking about some other stuff. (F/19/Asexual)
Story #2312
When I came out as asexual to one of my closest friends, she stopped looked at me and said, “Ace sisters!” It made me so happy, especially since we always thought I was straight and she was an ally to the community. I’m going to tell my family at Christmas, will make more updates then!! (F/13/Asexual)