When I came out, it was a year ago to my best friend. I said, “ok, I’m bi but minus the guy.” It was so much easier than saying I am a lesbian. We chatted for three hours about it and she helped give me confidence. A few months later I told my family…. Boy, I wish I hadn’t done that. My dad accepted me but kept teasing me about it, and my mother said it would be best if I didn’t tell anyone and that who you love changes over time. It was really difficult time, but my mum has her reasons for not being too pleased. Anyway, from now on I try and help people I know with being honest about their sexuality and identity! (F/15/Lesbian question asexual)
Story #2315
When I came out to my parents, I knew they wouldn’t have a problem with it, because they already knew that several of my friends were queer. When I went to the CSD in a city nearby (which they knew about), I picked up some flyers which explained my sexual orientation and generally different genders and orientations. The next time my parents and sister visited me, I gave them the flyers saying I realized we never really talked about my sexual orientation and it’s probably obvious, but in case they didn’t know yet, I’m asexual. My little sister took the opportunity to tell our parents that she isn’t straight either. (F/19/Asexual)
Story #2313
When I came out for the first time, it was to some people from my year on a school trip. When some of us were talking in the evening, a boy jokingly asked what type of sex I prefer and I answered with “None, actually, considering that I’m asexual”. That was the first time I ever said my sexual orientation out aloud, as I never had to tell my friends because they simply knew. He was just like, “Duh, I know,” and we kept talking about some other stuff. (F/19/Asexual)
Story #2312
When I came out as asexual to one of my closest friends, she stopped looked at me and said, “Ace sisters!” It made me so happy, especially since we always thought I was straight and she was an ally to the community. I’m going to tell my family at Christmas, will make more updates then!! (F/13/Asexual)
Story #2296
When I came out to my best male friend, he didn’t get what I was trying to say. Ten minutes later, he said he was extremely proud of me and went on to tell me that one of my best friend’s twin brother is asexual, which I did not know. My friend also said I get double the power. Omg. (She/they/14/Bi/ace)
Story #2292
When I came out it was in an introductary uni class. We were all supposed to have a fun fact about ourselves and it was all I could think of. There was zero reaction aside from a guy directly behind me who went “huh”. (Neutrosis/nonbinary/24/Asexual aromantic)
Story #2291
When I came out, it was to my roommate in college. She was more than accepting of me and even inspired me to come out on my blog website and to my younger brother (Age: 13). My brother responded with an “Okay… was that it?” which was both comical and relieving. He further explained that “You’re my sister and I love you no matter what, alright?” which was an amazing feeling. I’m grateful to have such amazing and accepting people in my life. Now I just have to figure out how to tell my parents 😬 (F/18/Heteromantic Asexual)
Story #2273
When I came out to one of my straight friends, she said,“That’s okay, a lot of people are nowadays.” Odd and slightly offensive, but she was accepting at least. Another friend came out to me as pan after a discussion at church about gay people so I came out to him and we promised to support each other. My parents are not being very accepting at the moment; they don’t understand my orientation and they want me to date, get married, and have kids, which isn’t really in the cards for me. (F/19/Asexual heteroromantic)
Story #2267
When I came out, it was first to my friend who’d recently come out to me as lesbian. I was expecting her to probably be confused and maybe not entirely supportive, but I felt like I needed to let someone know. To my surprise, she knew what asexuality was and was incredibly supportive, asking me about my romantic orientation and sharing some resources that helped her when she was discovering her own sexuality. I’m not out to anyone else yet, but it was awesome to feel accepted and understood like that. (F/15/Heteroromantic Asexual)
Story #2266
When I came out to my (non-binary and lesbian) best friend as an asexual, they accepted me immediately and told me that they already knew it for a long time but they didn’t want to force me to come out. Instead, when I told my (straight) friend that I am asexual she was confused and although she said that she supports me she didn’t understand what it means to be asexual and also told me that it could only be a phase and that it is too early to say. (F/15/Asexual/aromantic)