When I came out, first I thought I was bisexual. But with growing crushes on girls, no longer boys, it was apparent that I was lesbian. During a program, we played a game where we put anonymous slips of paper into a box responding to the prompt: “If people really knew me, they would know…” I put: If people really knew me, they would know that I’m lesbian and scared to come out. Ever since, people have tried to guess who it was, but no one except my very close friends knows that the anonymous gay is me 🙂 (F/13/Lesbian)
Story #1779
When I came out it wasn’t planned. My parents always go through my phone and came across a couple google searches that I searched about coming out stories and how to figure out sexuality. For the most part they accept me but my father is angry at me for not telling him. (F/14/Bisexual)
Story #1778
When I came out I was 12. I told my good friend that kinda guessed I was bi, then my other good friends. They all accept me. One of the people I told I am no longer friends with, but she still keeps it a secret. I told a total of five people and I am too scared to tell my family because I know that my uncle and my grandmother do not like gay people. (F/13/Bi)
Story #1777
When I came out, it was to my best friend of 15 years. Yet he still acts like nothing ever happened. That was two years ago. He is the only one I’ve ever trusted. Not even my own family. It hurts, and every day, it is a struggle. But when I read your stories in here, it gives me hope that maybe one day, things might change. Thank you for this. Stay strong. Love you guys. (M/26/Gay)
Story #1776
When I came out, I felt terribly sad. I had broken up with my boyfriend. I was so desperate that I needed to tell someone. So I told my closest friends, one by one, that I had fallen in love with a boy who, now, had decided to abandon me. That was the first step in a never-ending process of coming out (at work, with your family, with new friends, neighbours…). (M/45/Gay)
Story #1775
When I came out I was 14; it was last year. I’ve known that I was gay ever since I was like 7 years old but I have been so ashamed of it so I never told anyone, until July last year. My best friend and I sat on the beach and talked about this boy she had a huge crush on, then she asked me, “How come you’ve never been in love with a boy?” And I looked at her and she understood it the second she said it; I think it all suddenly made sense in her head. It was like a huge relief because after that we just talked about for two hours and finally I could let it all out, the things that I’ve had inside of me for so many years. The same night I told my family and my mom had kind a hard time to accept it but today everyone in my family is supportive. (F/15/Homosexual)
Story #1774
When I came out, I told my best friends. I went straight to the point and told them I was bi. I already knew two of my best friends were bi, and they were very supportive. I would also drop hints to some of my classmates; I’m pretty sure they know I’m bi but they try to act stupid. Ever since my friends and I came out, it seems like everyone in our school started coming out. Some people would say we’re disgusting, but we ignore them. LGBTQ+ or not we’re still humans, right? (F/12/Bi)
Story #1773
When I came out I was 19, and even 3 years later it’s not something I openly talk about. I was drunk and out partying with some mates. One of them said, “That’s so gay” about something, and without missing a beat I just shouted, “Same!” They just laughed and said OK cool. I kept it to myself for about three weeks and then told my family over the phone. I told my mother and her response was “Oh! OK, don’t tell your father just yet, he’s had a car accident, that’s why I phoned.” (It wasn’t serious but no one knew that at the time.) Fast forward 3 years and my family accept me and joke about it, but I lived in a country where being LGBT was a prisonable offence so I never really talk about it. (M/22/Gay)
Story #1772
When I came out to one of my friends, I had already known I was bi for a while. I had crushes on multiple girls and I was pretty confident in who I liked. I thought he would be supportive of me, and I had already told a lot of my friends casually that I also liked girls. I really didn’t think much of it since I know so many bi people and am friends with multiple. We were with his friend, and I casually said I liked girls. He told me he didn’t believe me and that I was just doing it for attention from guys since I act “straight”. I wanted to cry, but instead, I yelled at him and asked him why he thought that I needed to prove my sexuality to him. I felt so hurt that he thought I would do that, and even more so that he thought I needed to prove it to him. (F/Bi)
Story #1771
When I came out, I first told my parents that I thought I was bi. It was kinda weird, and my mom told me that nothing was certain and that I’m still figuring things out. I also told my friends that I was bi but something felt off, and I decided to learn more about the LGBT+ community. Eventually, I stumbled onto the idea of quoiromanticism, and I think I know what I am now. Still experimenting, and waiting to tell people until I know for sure. (F/14/Quoiromantic but maybe not)