When I Came Out

When I came out on New Year’s Eve to all my friends, as gay, I already was out, as bi, but I realized I was lying to myself. About a month or so later, I came out to my parents, who either ignore it, or think I’m faking it. At least my friends are awesome…

When I came out, I realized that almost everyone that I knew didn’t really think it was a big deal. I’m a 14 year old girl and I identify as bisexual, and I came out when I was 13. My sexuality has always been an open secret, and the first step in coming out is always the hardest. I no longer have to hide my sexuality at school, but I’m still not out at home and no one in my family knows. Hopefully, there’ll be a day where I’ll be able to love openly and freely at home as well as school!

When I came out, I told my best friend of 17 years in the parking lot of the mall before we went Christmas shopping. My voice was quivering and I started to cry. She started crying and she said she was honored I wanted to tell, she loves me so much, and that I am more normal than ever.

When I came out to my older sister I was in my lounge at university with a friend and my girlfriend. We were about to go to sleep when I said that I needed to tell her something. I tried to say it but the words stuck in my mouth until my girlfriend put her hand on my shoulder and lent me some of the strength I needed. I said, “I’m bi” and she just said, “Okay, I love you, and I thought you were going to say something bad! I’m glad you’re happy!” And I really couldn’t be happier.

When I came out to my best friend, it took 3 tries over about 6 months. The first time was when I thought I was bisexual (because I refused to believe that I was actually gay). We were walking through a park and I wrote the whole message down on my phone, planning to show her, but I didn’t. Then I messaged her saying I’m bisexual but the message wouldn’t go through for some reason. Finally I told her I was gay and she was cool with it and actually helped me come out to someone else the same night!

When I came out to my best friend last December I told her I was bi and 2 weeks later told her I was actually gay. My parents are ok with it and love me. Most of my friends accepted me and other than a few “no homo”s and “don’t act gay” I’ve been accepted.

When I came out as a lesbian to my family and friends I was so terrified. I thought that everyone would hate me, but not one single person was against it. Every one of them was so supportive and still is today.

When I came out as bisexual it was to my bisexual friend. She said she still loved me. We’ve been dating ever since.

When I came out, it was to my mum. We were having a fight because I was telling my friends about what’s going on with me more than my own parents (I came out to my friends before my mum). I screamed at her, saying, “Fine, I’m bisexual,” then started crying. She accepted me. Turns out that same year my older brother came out as gay.

When I came out to my close friends, they were really supportive despite my inner doubts. They gave me courage to come out to my mom who told me I was brave and that she loved me. I still have not come out to my dad, but plan to someday soon. It feels good living as an “out” lesbian rather than hiding who I really am.