When I Came Out

When I came out to my best friend, I had to do it by text, because I was way too nervous to tell her in person (which was what I had first planned to do). I texted her right after school and she said that she would always love me no matter what and that it doesn’t even matter to her. We talk about my celebrity crushes (Rooney Mara and Amber Heard!) and real crushes with so much ease now.

When I came out, I told my straight best friend and roommate. He was really accepting and told me we’ll be friends no matter what. He kinda knew already, and was just waiting for me to say something. He even said if anyone ever messes with me about being gay, he’ll kick their ass for me. I’m happier than I’ve ever been in my life.

When I came out I was finally feeling that I’m me even though I lost some of my “friends” cause of that. Before that I’ve seen so many videos about coming out and stuff just to know other experiences. So I came out to some of my close friends and they were really supportive. Then I told my siblings and finally my parents. My dad told me that since I’m happy in relationship he doesn’t care who I love. My mom didn’t get over it after almost 7 months, so I’m still waiting.

When I came out, the first person I told was my best friend. She is so accepting and she’s awesome!! I told my dad a few months later and it was with a counselor and he helped me, and my dad is also really accepting!! I then told my mom a few days later and she’s accepting too.

When I came out to my conservative Christian teacher, he had the same reaction as my awesome (Jewish) dad and they both took it several times better than my (Jewish as well) mom. The only reason I’m still under my family’s roof is my Dad, and my teacher offered me whatever support I needed that he could give (food, shelter, clothes, etc.). My Mom’s reaction continues to hurt, and I hate the fact that she seems to be getting more homophobic towards me. (I hope I haven’t destroyed her acceptance of the LGBTQQI community.) I also CANNOT WAIT to graduate high school and move out somewhere else far, far away.

When I came out to my best friend, she automatically asked me, “So are you in love with me or something?” I tried my best to explain to her that I like a certain type of girl, just like she likes a certain type of guy, but she wasn’t having it. It made me upset because we had been best friends since 2nd grade, we were neighbors, and we decided to be roommates in college together. Today I found out that she submitted a roommate change request form to our RA. She hasn’t had a real conversation with me since the day I told her I was gay.

When I came out, over the last couple of weeks, the people I told were very supportive. I started with one of my close friends, who then encouraged me to tell my sisters, who took it very well. One of them said that they already knew, which I kind of expected, but every time I told someone I began to feel more and more whole. I’m scared to tell my parents because they are Mormon, and even though they are really loving I don’t want to know if they will treat me differently.

When I came out (for the first time) to my mother it destroyed me. “The word bisexual didn’t exist when I was a kid” was one of several illogical arguments. As life has gone on, though, I have realized I am not bi, just a lesbian (please note that I am fully supportive of bi humans!). I’ll come out again someday… possibly tomorrow.

When I came out, my parents and sister disappeared from my life for a while, not speaking to me. They were disappointed and upset because I said it out loud. I was liberated and scared. Several years have passed and we have begun to patch our relationships. I learned how to be courageous and independent and that sometimes unconditional love takes trivial pit stops.

When I came out to my grandmother, she asked me if it was an April Fool’s prank. I was really hurt that she would think I would use something like that as a prank, and I got pretty upset. She called me later and apologized for saying that, and that she would love me no matter who I loved. I still am upset at her for thinking that though.