When I Came Out

When I came out as pansexual, my mom told me it was “a phase because you hang out with gay people,” even though she has gay friends and even went to a lesbian wedding. When I came out as androgynous and wanted to be called “Shane” and not “Sabrina”, she wouldn’t take it. I wrote on a bio that my name was “Shane”, and wanted to show it to her. Her response was, “The name’s wrong, but everything else is good.” I wanted to cry…

When I came out to my mom she was understanding but had some questions. I answered the questions and my mom told me that she loves me no matter what.

When I came out to my guy friends, they were all fine with it, some even saying that it’s “hot”. I accidentally told a female friend in maths class while talking about Billie Joe Armstrong’s bisexuality. I told her I was just joking, even though she was cool with it. When I eventually told my female friends they were a bit awkward but fine with it and the girl I accidentally told said that even before then, they all kind of suspected that I’m not straight. My mum and siblings suspect it as well, but anxiety is a b*tch.

When I came out my father said that he would love me if I fell in love with an elephant.

When I came out my parents had two different reaction: my mom told me that she already knew but my father didn’t understand me and he was very angry. Now our relationship is good but I can’t talk about this argument… I’m not very happy.

When I came out to my friend over text, I just said that I was really crushing on this one boy from our school. She didn’t hesitate at all to reply that she thought it was adorable, and that’s why I’m so glad to have friends like her in my life.

When I came out, I was out with my friend after happy hour with other people. She knew I had been depressed all summer, but didn’t know why. I then just blurted out “I’m gay. I’ve always known deep down, and I’m 24 and tired of not being who I am.” She responded, “I always knew there was something different about you, but know that this changes nothing between us and I’m here for you.” I don’t think it could have gone better!

When I came out my parents went absolutely ballistic. They couldn’t understand it especially since we come from a religious family. They wouldn’t talk to me about it at all and my mom always looked like she was going to throw up whenever I’d bring it up. After a few months I met a beautiful girl who stole my heart within days and now she’s all that matters to me. I don’t care what anyone thinks, just her.

When I came out to my parents they seemed to have known it since I was 10. Religious views have made all the acceptance process harder. Even though up to this moment I haven’t heard sincere words I can say it is much better being out. Not every family will comprehend it but life goes on and happiness has nothing to do with anyone but oneself.

When I came out my conservative parents were surprisingly supportive and told me they always knew I was gay… I was extremely scared and the words “I am gay” took ten minutes to come out (pun intended).