When I Came Out

When I came out, well, my parents forced me out. They saw a photo on Facebook of me with my now boyfriend for a year and they knew. They called me and asked and I had to tell them. My parents told me they loved me no matter what. Even after living with this secret for 24 years it was tough. I couldn’t be happier now.

When I came out as bi I did it on Facebook. I’ve known since elementary school but never told anyone because I was afraid it was only a phase so I waited until college just to be sure. Now I’m in college and I’ve realized that I didn’t care about what people thought of me, I just wanted to be all of me so in October this year I wrote “HEY! I’m bi” as my status.

When I came out to my mom I burst out crying before I could tell her, and then told her I was bi through my tears. She told me she loved me no matter what. I’m glad to have a supportive family.

When I came out of closet to my best friend, I was so scared. I prepared myself for weeks, but still I didn’t have any bravery to face him. So I told him over text. “Bob, I love u, but this love is not like what u think. I’m gay.” Yeah, it’s still scary for me, but I did it. It was such a relief for me in the end. He was shocked but now he is still beside me. He is still my best friend and the one whom I tell everything to. I’m really proud to have him in my life.

When I came out, I prepared a text to two of my best mates one night before college, saying something like, “Hey need to tell you something tomorrow.” Anyway I was about to delete the message and chicken out once again when I accidentally sent it. Well, the next day one of the girls kept asking me what it was through break. I went to lesson and finally texted her telling her I was gay. She was so lovely and accepting and is still one of my best friends to this day.

When I came out as bisexual to my brother, my sister was already aware. I flat-out asked him what he would think if one of his siblings wasn’t straight. He said, “Eh. Wouldn’t change anything.” I told him I am bisexual and he said, “You’re still my brother.”

When I came out as bi to my mom about 4 months ago I was extremely nervous. When I started out as a freshman in college (senior now) and like many people that age started drinking and partying pretty heavily, I had a string of one-night stands with both men and women for which I am totally ashamed because it was not behavior I was raised to view as acceptable. I thought she would love me less and be disgusted by what I had done and see me as some kind of deviant. I found the opposite to be true; she loved me more and she loved that I was willing to share this with her. So many parents know that their kids are keeping things from them and it makes them sad to know their kids don’t feel like they can trust them.

When I came out as bisexual, it was during my final semester of college earlier this year. Everyone I came out to was accepting. My family doesn’t know since I’m not sure if they’ll be accepting. If I could, I would thank the last girl I liked at college for helping me realize who I am.

When I came out to my sister, I thought I’d be weird, but I was surprised instead. I got as far as: “Hey, you know I’m gay—” before she interrupted me with a look. For a minute she didn’t say a word, just stared. Finally she grinned wildly, “Yeah, I know, Kat… it was that or you were attracted to books.” Then we laughed, just like we used to as kids.

When I came out to my best friend, it was in his car at 2h in the morning, and he was dropping me at my house. I was 17 and it had been a month that I was trying to tell him but I just couldn’t… My mouth was just so dry, my voice so shaky, but I did it. I told him I was bi, but maybe gay (which I think I am now). We talked for 15 minutes after we continued the conversation by textos. I couldn’t sleep, I had so much energy… he was really kind, he didn’t care, and now, 9 months later, I think of this moment as being one of the most important and maybe the best moment of my life. I’m so happy I did it! 🙂