When I Came Out

When I came out I was a wreck. I was crying before I even said anything. My entire family was out at a lodge, some of them I hadn’t seen in 4+ years. I stood up on this bench and used my hands as a microphone and let everyone know that I was gay. A lot of my family didn’t accept me and told me I was in a phase and that I was a disappointment to them, but my mom and my sister were okay with it. (I live with them, so that worked out really great!!) Unfortunately, my dad left as soon as I said it and our relationship isn’t going to get better. /:

When I came out to my mother at the age of 13, I told her I was bisexual and she punched me in the mouth. At the age of 16 I came out to her as a lesbian and she came out to me as being bisexual. I am now 22 years old and I finally got the courage to tell her I am actually a Transman. She hesitated at first and now she is used to it. Now when she introduces me to people, she calls me her son.

When I came out, my mom was clearly upset. She didn’t understand and she told me that she just wanted her baby girl to stay with her. I told her that I was never really a girl, that I only looked that way. She cried. I cried. I called my best friend to come pick me up after she kicked me out. Now, I’m staying with my friend for a while I guess…

When I came out, it was during lunch and my friends kept asking me if I had a crush on this girl in band and I said no and they didn’t believe me. So they asked if I had a crush on any girls and I said not currently, no. Then my best friend, being the loudmouth he is, jokingly said, “What are you, gay?” I said yeah and he was surprised but he didn’t really care.

When I came out as pansexual it was to my best friend over text as I was terrified to say it in person. I hadn’t planned on telling anyone for years but it just came out. She was so shocked but she was completely fine about it and was glad that I told her. I’m so thankful for how well it went.

When I came out, my family actually found out through my online conversations. They got really angry, saying I didn’t trust them with this and that “this lesbian thing” was ridiculous. They said they “weren’t that shallow” and would support me, but nowadays they still talk to me as if I’m straight. I’m entering freshman year of high school and I really hope, if I bring home a girlfriend someday, we’ll be able to have a happy dinner together.

When I came out to my two best friends, I did that by sending them the “coming out song” (you can find it on YouTube). They were very supportive and they thought that the idea of the song was creative. Now I have to come out to my parents, which I’m not gonna do for the next 200 years…

When I came out to my friends they screamed to me and told me that they knew. They support me so much and I couldn’t ask for better friends.

When I came out, I came out to one of my closest friends. She was bi and I already knew. I was in 6th grade. We are 26 and married now. I am a social worker and she is a lawyer. 

When I came out, I told the person that I knew wouldn’t care. After telling him about a girl I liked, it took him a minute to even realize it was important to me — he thought I was just talking about my crush, and didn’t even blink. We spent the rest of lunch telling your mom jokes, because a whole new avenue of humor was open to me. He has no idea how much the jokes meant to me. I loved how normal it felt.