When I Came Out

When I came out, it was mainly through social media for the past year or so, by “liking” gay sites or retweeting gay-themed tweets, and making it obvious in Facebook, Google+ profiles. It’s worked out quite well.

When I came out to my best friend, who is eight years older than me and the opposite sex, he asked me if I had just realized it or if I had known for a while. When I told him the latter, he just replied, “So then are you going to celebrate by banging SOME CHICKS?!” Honestly his humour was exactly what I needed.

When I came out seven months ago, I talked and talked, while my dad, pale in the face, stared through me. He hugged me afterwards, and told me he loved me, but after seven months now, it hurts to see the fear and ignoring-of-the-truth that still lingers in his eyes.

When I came out to my first relative as bi, it was my grandmother over the phone. She was very patient and listened to everything I had to say. Then she told me it was a sin, God wouldn’t create someone like that, I need to do more soul searching. But she said she still loves me. She was quick to hang up, but it was better than I expected at least.

When I came out as a trans woman to my best friend, she was very accepting and even came out to me as pansexual. Over a year since then, and we’ve been a couple for nearly 8 months. I don’t regret a single moment of our relationship.

When I came out, one of the first people I told was a close friend. Her reaction was to say, “Awesome! Now we can talk about boys together, yay!!” Best reaction ever.

When I came out to my friend, she jumped off the couch with a huge smile and said, “Well, duh!” and then we just went back to talking about food.

When I came out, I said, “Hey, you know how I said I’m not gay? Well I’m not. I’m bi.” And my dad started laughing because of course that’s how I came out. My parents were both really supportive and so was my best friend — I’m incredibly lucky.

When I came out to my mum, she freaked out and said that bisexuality didn’t exist and that she wished I didn’t tell her. She said that none of my aspirations would ever be achieved if I came out publicly. I thought she would be accepting because she has a gay brother. Luckily the friends that I told think it’s damn awesome and so do I.

When I came out to my friend, we were walking to class and I blurted: “I’m bisexual” and she started laughing and it turns out, she is too.