When I Came Out

When I came out as a trans woman to my best friend, she was very accepting and even came out to me as pansexual. Over a year since then, and we’ve been a couple for nearly 8 months. I don’t regret a single moment of our relationship.

When I came out, one of the first people I told was a close friend. Her reaction was to say, “Awesome! Now we can talk about boys together, yay!!” Best reaction ever.

When I came out to my friend, she jumped off the couch with a huge smile and said, “Well, duh!” and then we just went back to talking about food.

When I came out, I said, “Hey, you know how I said I’m not gay? Well I’m not. I’m bi.” And my dad started laughing because of course that’s how I came out. My parents were both really supportive and so was my best friend — I’m incredibly lucky.

When I came out to my mum, she freaked out and said that bisexuality didn’t exist and that she wished I didn’t tell her. She said that none of my aspirations would ever be achieved if I came out publicly. I thought she would be accepting because she has a gay brother. Luckily the friends that I told think it’s damn awesome and so do I.

When I came out to my friend, we were walking to class and I blurted: “I’m bisexual” and she started laughing and it turns out, she is too.

When I came out as bisexual to my best friend, she was so happy that I trusted her. She told me that when I tell my parents and they scream at me or want me to move out, I can always call her and move to her house, even if it’s 3 a.m. I’m so happy that she is my best friend.

When I came out to my mother last year in December, we were coming from a wedding of one of her friends. Things she said at the wedding like “You will have a beautiful wife like this” just made me really sad and I felt like I had to come out to her, and I did in the car. Her response was really negative and she did not accept it. Even to this day she is still talking about getting girlfriends and she is just making me feel very bad about it.

When I came out to my mom it was after I met a girl on Myspace and she asked me out on a date. I told my mom I had a date, and I think she asked something like, “With who?” And I just said, “With a girl. She’s Jewish, from Fountain Hills.” And that was pretty much that. I don’t think I ever had to “come out” to my dad; I feel like we’ve always checked out women together and it was just a given that I am who I am.

When I came out to my best friend by simply saying, “I’m gay” she had a look of disappointment. Not because I was gay but because she thought I was going to confess something more “badass” like being a convict or spy.