When I came out a few months ago to my mom, she kept asking me if I found any guys cute (from school and different bands), and eventually asked if I would ever like guys. I said no, and so right before I left the room she asked if I liked girls, and I smiled and said yes, thinking my coming out had gone well to my conservative mom. But she ignored it. Now, she’s back to badmouthing the LGBT+ community for being “too sensitive” (in front of me) and has already made a “you may marry that guy friend of yours one day!” joke. It really hurts when your parent’s claims that they’ll accept you turn out to be fake.
Story #1750
When I came out it was at a party last weekend. I was drunk, and one of my friends went on my phone and saw my photos! I just said it there and then and everyone was so nice and gave me hugs. My male best friend still loves me, and we have even become closer. A huge weight has been lifted off my shoulder — only my parents left! (M/18/Gay)
Story #1748
When I came out to my dad last night, he basically told me it was a phase and that I didn’t know what I was talking about. This morning he said, “Sometimes gay women forget that they’re female, and they wear men’s clothing and cut their hair short. Gay men sometimes are too gay and they are hard to be around. Don’t forget that you’re a girl. ” and I am a feminist, and I nodded and said I understood like the feminine person he thought I was. I was on my period. When I got to school I started to cry. I hated myself for lying to everyone. I hated my dad. But now I’m trying to move past him. Today I plan to become open and show him that his pansexual daughter doesn’t care about how he sees me. (F/12/Pansexual)
Story #1747
When I came out I had known I wasn’t straight for a while, but had only admitted I was full-on lesbian a couple of months before. I was having a heart-to-heart conversation with my mum and she asked me what had been worrying me the past year, so I gave her some clues and she guessed, saying, “Well, I know you’re not taking drugs, so you might be wondering whether you like boys, or girls.” She said it really simply, it was super nice, and because of that I plucked up the courage to tell one of my closest friends, who is gay herself and just straight (ha…) up texted her, “I just came out to my Mum.” She replied… “Out of what?” and listed many options, about 15 of them, ranging from “the closet” to “a tuba.” (F/Lesbian)
Story #1746
When I came out I had no clue what to expect from my family. My dad didn’t care when I came out as bi but went on a religious rant when I came out as trans about how it wasn’t true and I was wrong. He still does that along with my stepmom. My mother took it really well and is really supportive of me, and i’m truly grateful to have her in my life. (F/16/Bi/Trans)
Story #1745
When I came out, it was a fast decision. I told one of my new friends that I was genderfluid and she looked at me and smiled and was awesome about it! (Genderfluid/13/Pan)
Story #1744
When I came out it was very unexpected. I’d told maybe 7 of my closest friends and definitely not my parents. I said about a year beforehand to a bi friend (we came out to each other and I have a massive crush on her but haven’t said) that I would never lie about my sexuality and I stuck to that. This girl was going round the classroom asking if we were lesbian (all-girl school) and I was the last person to ask of course so I said yes! I’d expected the rumours to spread but so far no one has said anything. It’s so relieving for everyone to know. Not my mum, though; she is abusive and I live alone with her so I’ll tell her when I get married. (F/15/Lesbian)
Story #1743
When I came out it was totally by accident. I hadn’t even admitted it to myself and had been losing sleep over it. Then my friend was like, “I think I’m the only gay one at my school” and it just popped out. Now I’ve come out to a few friends and last night I came out to my mom. She was awesome and apparently half of my Catholic Irish family is lesbian (yay). Now I need to tell my dad and I will try to tell my class. My dad’s side is extremely conservative but I think my dad will be good. (F/12/Pansexual)
Story #1742
When I came out it was on Friday at a party. One of my friends went on my phone and found some photos of shirtless guys. So I just confessed right there and then. It could not have gone any better, got so many hugs and kind words, and my best friend who is straight doesn’t care and is super supportive. So happy! (M/19/Gay)
Story #1741
When I came out to my older cousin (who is gay) I texted him the songs “Girls,” “Girls Like Girls,” “Same Love,” and a few others. He texted back, “Are you trying to tell me something?” Then he told me he loved me and told my mom for me. (F/15/Lesbian)