When I came out, ‘transgender’ was a word I’d never heard of, but ‘lesbian’ was, so that’s what I went with. My sexuality went around a few roundabouts, but I eventually came out as non-binary and transmasc/trans male and found my sexuality along the way. I told my parents I was trans by leaving an unsent message in my mum’s text messages. I told my brother by saying, ‘I’m your brother’ and he said, ‘I know’. My identity might not make sense to everyone, but it works for me :)) (Non-binary/transmasc/male/18/Bi/asexual/aromantic)
Story #2583
When I came out, it was fairly hard. I was born a girl and everyone considered me a girl. Compared to the other preppy girls at my school, I look like something that came from a dumpster. However, when I first got my period, everything in me broke. Growing breasts felt like a barrier building up to prevent me from trying to be my true self. My mom found out about me being trans when my homophobic sociology teacher told her on open house. My mom was kind of supportive and my dad is completely neutral on the topic. However, my teacher still disrespects me and once he separated me from doing a group activity. I was sad but I hoped that my fellow queers won’t have to go through this. (FtM/Transmasc/14/Bisexual)
Story #2578
When I first came out when I was 12 I came out as ftm and bi. Well, not exactly, I was outed because I had a severe mental breakdown and couldn‘t handle lying anymore. Afterwards I got told I was “confused” and that I was going through a “phase”. I also had to befriend and unfriend some people because my mom thought they were a bad influence and made me that way. The people I befriended turned out to be some degree of homophobic too. Nowadays I‘m 14 and I still feel this way. I often cry because I feel dysphoric. I‘m scared of coming out too because of what happened last time, but I think my family would be more supportive this time. (They/he/14/Masc non-binary/pansexual)
Story #2574
When I came out maybe half a year ago, I had been kinda out as a non-binary person, but it wasn’t said out loud or anything. But then I started feeling uncomfortable being labeled as she / a girl and my old name felt like a hustle as well. My parents divorced, my mum is a psychologist and she married a dude that has the same profession so first, I came out to them. I expected them to be understanding but…They said they respect my gender identity, but still misgender me, use my deadname etc, and when I wanted a binder they rejected, and took me to a psychologist to try to prove to me I have some kind of trauma or I don’t even know. I became distant with my family because I can’t even begin to come out to them. It is just a whole mess and I’m waiting to just reach 18 years and change my name / start transition. (Transmasc/15)
Story #2551
When I came out to my parents, it made me realize a lot. I didn’t get the choice to come out on my own terms, as they found out on their own and I was forced to come out. I felt pretty heartbroken when they responded with disgust and disbelief, almost like it was phenomenon. After that they just ignored who I was and it was just pretty awkward after that. I wish it ended up differently but it made realize that I should accept myself because that’s who I am. Do not let people dictate on who you are. Be yourself. (Non-binar/transmasc/13/Abrosexual)
Story #2528
When I came out I was 11. At that time I identified as pansexual and had posted about it online. My parents, being overprotective, read it. Later, at a sleepover one September 15, my (lesbian) friend dared me to officially come out, as my parents hadn’t said anything on the topic. We made a little sign saying “am pansexual. – [deadname]”. (Transmasc/genderfluid/nonbinary/Pomoromantic/asexual/aro-spec)
Story #2299
When I came out to my mom, she said she accepted me, but kept misgendering me. I remember telling her I wanted to change my name, and she got really mad. Recently I talked to her about constantly misgendering me, and she said that I was “too young to know”, which is stupid. When I came out to my dad, he said I didn’t “act like a boy”, and wouldn’t refer to me as one. I’m lucky to have friends, an aunt and a few cousins that accept me. (Transmasculine/13/Gay)