When I came out, it was only to a few people at first. Just some super close friends. At the time, I was pansexual and cis female. Things have changed a decent amount since then, as I’ve come out to them, and a few of my siblings, as nonbinary trans-masc, pansexual, and polyamorous. They’ve all been my biggest supporters and the best friends I could ever ask for. I even got 3 partners that support me as well! I might not tell my parents yet though, since we live in the south and they’re both pastors. Until I move out, I don’t really wanna consider telling them. :/ (Nonbinary Trans-Masc [they/he/fae/it]/17/Pansexual polyamorous)
Story #2282
When I came out, it was the day after the last day of school. I had already told friends and stuff, but I posted a TikTok and told my grandma. She loves me unconditionally and has gotten me stuff to help. My brothers have been very understanding even after being so young. Their dad also supports me and told me to be me! My aunt said she is so proud of me!! And most importantly: my mom! She is currently in jail; I wrote her a letter telling her and she wrote me back basically telling me how proud she was and how she loved my name and it’s as beautiful as me. (F/14/Transgender)
Story #2280
When I came out, it was to my friends and sister and slowly to my parents. It was a little difficult to come out at first but I overcame it after a while. My friends and my sister accepted me, which I only semi-expected, while it’s been a little rocky with my parents. They’re not rude nor hostile about it, but my mom sometimes makes jokes which don’t sit right with me. She also says she’s not used to change and apologizes about it. It sometimes hurts but I’m used to it cause I know they love me. (Transmasc/FtM/15/Bisexual)
Story #2276
When I came out as gay, my mom gasped (it was over the phone) and dismissed it. When I halfway came out as trans, my mom and grandma degraded queer people in an attempt to change my mind. I have been told that my brother and sister (among other people) are not allowed to know. My mother told me today that my brother and sister are not allowed to listen to Lil Nas X or Jojo Siwa because he (Lil Nas X) is gay and she (Jojo Siwa) is pansexual, and my poor sister loved Jojo Siwa. My friends are super supportive, and save me every day from a world of sadness, but it hurts that my friends accept me more than my own mother, and I’m sorry for anyone who is in this situation or worse. (F/15/Gay/trans)
Story #2265
When I came out to my mom as transgender ftm she said she accepted me, but she then had a breakdown and told me it’s for attention and that she and my dad won’t let me start hormones or blockers and that they won’t use my preferred name or pronoun. The rest of my family still calls me by my deadname and she/her. It’s hard and I struggle with it every day and am currently looking for a way to leave. I promise you’ll get through everything. Just stay strong; you’re loved and special and deserve the world. (FTM/15/Gay)
Story #2258
When I came out was actually just 30 minutes ago to my grandma. She texted me an artist whose name was Angelina Jordan and said it was her favorite artist. Then she proceeded to say, “I love listening to her when I feel a little extra bi.” She also said that many in our family were bi and that she loved me. So basically my grandma came out to me and I was like f it and I told her I was demi and trans. We then texted a little more and she said she knew since I was 3. I’ve always been scared to tell my grandparents but I now know they’ll always love me. (M/13/Demisexual/transgender)
Story #2257
When I came out at age 12 to my mom and siblings it wasn’t direct, but later my mom got me an apointment to talk to a specialist about how I felt. Even though it’s been almost over two years now and I’m waiting for my next appointment with someone who might be able to get me started on T and get top surgery, my mom still misgenders me and deadnames me, which has taken a toll on my mental health. But I’ve finally found a friend who doesn’t misgender me and tries his best at not deadnaming me. (M/13/Demisexual/transgender)
Story #2246
When I came out, I was seriously considering my gender identity for the first time, and decided I’d ask a cousin for advice. She said to “Go for it!” and then I went and wrote an entire page about my experiences questioning my gender and sent it to my discord (ThatOneAwkwardSnake#1093) and was met with tons of support from all my best friends, irl and out. Still haven’t come out to anyone else and the cousin I came out to first still thinks of me as “lesbian” which makes me uncomfy as it has a feminine connotation, and even though I’ve told her I prefer gay, she still uses lesbian. I don’t know if she understands non-binary. (Non-binary/11/Gay/trans FtNB)
Story #2241
When I came out to my older brother, he thought I was joking at first: he said I was too picky when it came to guys, and asked me what my type was, and I said, “Women.” He hugged me after and told me he accepted me and would keep my secret… and then started joking about it in front of my mom and making references to lesbian sex whenever he talked about me. I told him that I’d just been confused a couple months later. Sometimes, it’s just not the right time, and that’s ok. (Nonbinary/21/Gay/genderqueer/transgender)
Story #2237
When I came out, it was to my friends. My girlfriend at the time came out as trans, and I had known that I’d been trans for a pretty long time. I told my friend group. Mostly everyone accepted me, which made me so happy. I go by Matt now, instead of my deadname. But one of my nonsupportive friends keep asking me why I keep trying to be a dude. They shall never know UvU (Male [FtM]/16/Bisexual)