When I came out, I was 13. I told my friends first that I was queer and they were all fine with it because they are too. I told my parents in a letter and they were accepting, although they think it might just be a phase. Then I came out as transgender (FtM) and again, my friends were fine with it and immediately adapted to using my pronouns and name. However, my parents were not accepting and refuse to acknowledge my identity. It hurts, but I’m 14 now and I’ll be out of the house in 4 years anyways. (FtM/14/Transgender/queer)
Story #1801
When I came out I was 14. I have a close friend-group that are all queer and really open-minded, so it was easy to tell them. However, my family was another story. I had a whole plan on how to come out, but in the end it wasn’t necessary, because my mother already knew, so I kind of just blurted everything out. My mom is accepting and supports me, but my sister and step-dad are very conservative, but I know they’ll come around. (Trans[FtM]/15/Asexual [aromantic])
Story #1746
When I came out I had no clue what to expect from my family. My dad didn’t care when I came out as bi but went on a religious rant when I came out as trans about how it wasn’t true and I was wrong. He still does that along with my stepmom. My mother took it really well and is really supportive of me, and i’m truly grateful to have her in my life. (F/16/Bi/Trans)
Story #1701
When I came out to my mom we both cried and she said she’d always support me. I had come out as non-binary, but I told her I was mostly just so, so confused. After that she would send me articles and testimonies about teens who thought they were trans or about how 80% of trans people are faking or how being “trans” as a teen is bad. I started to believe that I really wasn’t trans and was faking it for attention and I started becoming more feminine. It nearly killed me. Now I’ve come out to her as FtM and I still think she doesn’t really believe me.
Story #1697
When I came out, it was to my brother at the hotel of Holiday Inn with nobody around. I told him I wasn’t straight and I was pansexual, and he got worked up. He said, “You should learn to love the right way! Please don’t do this… Gay people are depressed as f*ck and commit suicide, and I don’t want to lose you, please…” and I just told him to forget about the conversation. One day I will be with my lover, and they can get rid of me. I’ll be happier with the one I truly love, not my homophobic family. (FtM/13/Pansexual/Trans)
Story #1640
When I came out to my sister 15 minutes ago, I truly felt liberated. I had been debating whether to give her the letter I wrote or not, if I should slip it in her bag or just start reading it. I ended up handing her the letter and sat beside her as she read. She is absolutely accepting and her words really comforted me. I’m hanging out with my brother in a bit, guess he’s next (FtM/17).
Story #1638
When I came out last night, it felt so amazing. I’ve been reading others’ posts on here for years and I’m so excited that it’s finally my turn. I had been putting it off but I decided to finally tell my best friend. She asked me questions so she could better educate herself, which showed her genuine interest. That made me feel so much better. I plan on coming out to my parents and siblings by the end of this week. (FtM/17)
Story #1588
When I came out to my friend I asked her, “Do you know any transgender people?”
When she said no, I replied, “Bzzz! Incorrect answer!”
And her reply: “Are you — Are you coming out like this?”
“Yep.”
“That’s so cool!”
Story #1552
When I came out, I was in the car with my mum and she didn’t say anything. Then I heard her quietly say, “Another thing for attention??” I started crying and she did too. She says she accepts me but that doesn’t always seem to be the case… (FtM/16/Trans)
Story #1543
When I came out… it was to myself at 15. I cried all night long and had a panic attack but it was a huge weight off my shoulders and I’d never felt more relieved in my life. I’ve grown to fully accept myself, I finally know who I am and even if not everyone knows it I couldn’t be happier. (FtM/16/Trans and gay)