When I came out… it was to myself at 15. I cried all night long and had a panic attack but it was a huge weight off my shoulders and I’d never felt more relieved in my life. I’ve grown to fully accept myself, I finally know who I am and even if not everyone knows it I couldn’t be happier. (FtM/16/Trans and gay)
Story #1527
When I came out as transgender to my mom, I was 14, and terrified. We were on our way home from the grocery store and I just looked at her and said, “I think I was supposed to be a boy.” (I didn’t know what it was called.) And all she said was “I figured that was why you were acting weird.”
Story #1510
When I came out to my then best friend, I told him, “You probably already know this but — I’m trans”. He acted weird about it, then from that day on he’s insisted on calling me my deadname half the time and making he/him pronouns stand out in his sentences. I’m stuck with him because we live next to each other.
Story #1397
When I came out, my mom told me no one in my family would accept me. She told me she would fix me, that I would get help. She told me I was too pretty to be a boy. When I came out the boy I’ve loved for 4 years came out as bi. We’re dating now. He told me, “You’re a guy?” “Yes.” “Well, that makes me bi then.”
Story #1381
When I came out for the first time my mom told me I’d spent too much time on the computer and needed to stop thinking so much/that it was a phase. My dad told me it was unnatural to refer to myself with male pronouns and that I should stop. Ironically, they both say they’re supportive of trans people, but won’t acknowledge they have two sons. I will not try to come out to them again. (Trans/18/Gay)
Story #1362
When I came out as transgender, my mother straight up told me that I was wrong. It broke me, because all I wanted was her acceptance. She said that I am not allowed to do any transitioning until I am 18. I am 15 and my mental health is already terrible, I don’t think I can do it.
Story #1359
When I came out to my little cousin as transgender, it was on accident. Now she’s confused about it and her homophobic dad doesn’t want to discuss things involving it. I wish I hadn’t, but she’s happy for me and “hopes I can be a boy soon.”
Story #1342
When I came out, it wasn’t intentional. My parents found out that I was both bi and trans through reading texts I had sent my other friends. They didn’t take it well, and said some pretty awful stuff. But I have now had the courage to come out to more people and be more open about my identity, since it was my parents holding back in the first place. I feel a lot freer now.
Story #1291
When I came out, I had been anxious and stressing about it for days. Finally, when my mom was in the shower, I cracked the door open and said, “Mom? Would you hate me if I felt transgender?” She said, “No, why would I hate you?” I begin HRT in a couple of weeks (MtF/just turned 16).
Story #1240
When I came out as transgender (17, MtF) last month, my parents reacted terribly, saying that as long as I was under their roof, I was not going to be a girl. They said that me being trans is a mistake that I could make when I’m older. My stepdad said, and I quote, “Your life as a girl is over.” Now I’m scared to even try to be myself.