When I came out, the first thing I came out as was gay. I was having my friend guess who my crush was, and eventually, I said, “What would you say if it was a girl?” She just said, “Cool” and that gave me the courage to later come out to other friends. Eventually, I got a girlfriend and she helped me come out to the rest of my friends and I also helped her come out to hers. I then realized that I wanted to come out to some of my friends as non-binary, so I sent them an email and they were super accepting and friendly! (Non-binary/Queer)
Story #1828
When I came out, I was 13. I told my friends first that I was queer and they were all fine with it because they are too. I told my parents in a letter and they were accepting, although they think it might just be a phase. Then I came out as transgender (FtM) and again, my friends were fine with it and immediately adapted to using my pronouns and name. However, my parents were not accepting and refuse to acknowledge my identity. It hurts, but I’m 14 now and I’ll be out of the house in 4 years anyways. (FtM/14/Transgender/queer)
Story #1826
When I came out, it was yesterday. I FaceTime my best guy friend most nights, and a few nights ago, we were playing Truth or Dare over the phone. He asked which of my crushes had starred in my last dream, and I told him that he didn’t know them, but then I went on to say, “Ya, she was really pretty.” He then was like, “Wait, what?” and I told him to just drop it, but then last night he was like, “Hey, are you bi?” and now he knows. It was kinda funny because he said a lot of comments I’ve made in the past now make a lot more sense. 😀 (F/14/Bi-curious/queer)
Story #1794
When I came out I turned 13 about a week earlier. I am only out to my dad (3 months later), but it was around 11 pm on a school night and it was very emotional. I kept saying things like, “what if you don’t get it,” or “what if you don’t like it.” It didn’t help that he was already tired from work, so after many tears and about 30 minutes, I texted him and said, “I’m not straight.” He mentions it from time to time when we’re alone and stated how he knew, etc. (F/13/Queer)
Story #1733
When I came out to one of my best friends as non-binary, I was so scared of how she would handle it because I felt so vulnerable at the time. I texted her to tell her, and she immediately asked my pronouns and was so supportive. It honestly could not have been better. (NB/15/Queer)
Story #1708
When I came out to my girlfriend as non- binary, I was terrified. At that point, we had been dating for two years (three now) and I felt like I was betraying my best friend by keeping it from her. I wrote her a loooong letter and made her read it in front of me. After she was done she gave me the biggest hug and admitted that she had already suspected something was up with my gender and that she loved me regardless. She even told me that she had stopped referring to me as her girlfriend weeks before I came out to her. I’m so grateful and lucky to have such an amazing S/O. (NB/22/Queer)
Story #1242
When I came out to my long distance best friend as queer, he said at first that he was okay with it and couldn’t change me. Then he said he thought I was confused or decided to change who I liked because I had little female attention, and told me to “jack off to a pic of a hot girl.” No thanks, and wtf?!?! (M/14)
Story #1155
When I came out, it was to my mom and stepdad over a dinner of hot wings and cheese fries.
Me: I have something to tell you.
Mom: What?
Me: I don’t know how to say this.
Mom: You have a girlfriend.
Me: Close. *sigh* This is hard.
Mom: Just say it.
Me: I’m queer.
Mom: So you’re a lesbian?
Me: No. I don’t really want to get into it right now.
Mom: You have to educate us.
Me: Well, I date boys and girls and everything in between.
Mom: Oh. Okay. I love you.