When I came out as non-binary, my girlfriend at the time talked about how I seemed so masculine and that using the non-binary label was just a fad. She is queer so I was hoping that over time she would grow to accept it, but the opposite happened. I was lucky to have a remote job so I could move out to be with family who still struggle with pronouns but accept me. I still struggle to understand my own gender fluidity because my gender feelings have always been strong, but feel like they change on a dime. At this point I’m out as non-binary though I don’t pass yet and the fluidity is not a thing I understand how to talk generally. However, this is the first time in my life that feels like I’m loving it in a way that is authentic to myself, and if you relate to my story at all, please be brave! ❤️ (Non-binary/genderfluid/27/Bisexual/demi-sexual/polyamorous)
Story #2613
When I came out as genderfluid my parent said it was just a phrase and I was a tomboy and they deadname me and still call me a girl and use she/her pronouns, so I am forced to live a gender I am not. But I’m lucky as my friend is trans and one is a demi girl so they support me but people still make fun of my name. So will I ever be myself in front of them? (Genderfluid/Lithromantic/poly/aromantic/asexual)
Story #2606
When I came out I was in 7th grade. I have never been the best at communicating but I somehow managed to build enough confidence to write a paper to my mom saying I was a lesbian. When I came home she was mad that I didn’t tell her in person. She said she was supportive but it didn’t feel like it. Then I came out to her again this year as pan, poly, and non-binary. She is fine and supportive with everything but me being poly. She says it’s disgraceful to be poly. (Non-binary/16/Pan and poly)
Story #2513
When I came out to my mother as ftm, she told me that it was just “a trend” and that she will not “subscribe to your ideology.” She then refused to call me by my preferred pronouns (he/him). I was heartbroken, and that lasted for a while. However, that was 2 years ago… Today… I am Bigender. My pronouns are now she/him, and I feel very comfortable about it. I’ve came out to me friends, and they’re all supportive. It’s just my parents who still think and want me to be straight and cis. (Bigender/14/Lesbian/Demiromantic/Greysexual/Polyamorous)
Story #2496
When I came out, I was probably around 10-13. I first came out as bisexual, which I was wrong, girls suck (not all girls), then came to terms with being transgender at the age of 13, though I had to hide it. Mom found out by looking through my messages. Even now as an FTM she still uses “god sees it as a sin.” I recently came out to most teachers and have a supportive teacher. Some still want to force me in the box/force me to come out in documents. I am proud to say that I’m gay. (Transgender male/17/DemiGay polyamorous)
Story #2459
When I came out, I first came out to my brother. At the time, both of us were living as girls. I built a little house in minecraft with my pride flag as the color scheme, and he did the same. We later talked about it on a walk, and then came out to our other family together. (Masc enby/15/Aroace/polyam)
Story #2439
When I came out I texted my best friend when I was first questioning, and then followed up a few days later and told them that I definitely am bi. A few months later, I told my parents over text with a bi frog. My brother was at a sleepaway camp; I think he found out when he got his phone back / through my jokes. A few more months after that I realized I am gender fluid and literally chose my name on the walk to school. I told one of my friends who is kinda the center of the friend group and probolby a few others directly but most of them realized through the trickle of info about gender/sexuality. I haven’t come out to my parents as a gender bender yet but I plan to… in the next few years. Kinda scared but it’s fiiiiiiiiiiiinnnnnnnneeeeee. Anyway I think I’m polyamorous and haven’t felt the need to tell people. If it comes up, my friends will learn something new about me. (Genderfluid/gender bender/13/Bisexual and probably polyamorous)
Story #2380
When I came out to my friends, some accepted me and some didn’t. I got bullied a lot and still am. Although it’s hard to be in a negative place, I managed. I’ve had two partners and they were toxic, but now I’ve found the perfect partner and she is uber supportive and kind. My sister was next, and she and I are the misfits of the family so she has pretty much accepted me. My brothers and parents I still have to deal with, and I have to wait till I’m older but soon I will and we will see if they react badly. Coming out is scary, especially if you have religious parents/toxic parents, but if you try and fail keep trying and keep the people you love close! (Genderfluid/12/Gay/poly)
Story #2341
When I came out I told my aunt first cuz she is also part of the LGBTQA+ and than I told my grandparents and cousin and they was happy for me. When I came out to my parents they told me I have to be straight or I will get kicked out. I told them no cuz they can’t control me for ever. They did kick me out after so I was living with my aunt for the longest time I could remember. 2 years later my parents finally love me for me and let me move back in. They even threw a party to celebrate my move in and my sexuality. (13/Bi, Pan, and Poly)
Story #2294
When I came out it was at school with my friend group. I always knew I was pan but no one else did. My mother ended up finding out from a teacher at school and so I had to tell her face to face. She cried for the next week because she thought I was a lesbian and where she came from gay equals death. But she ended up accepting me eventually and everyone else in my family does too, except for my uncle who may or may not be disowning me anytime soon. (Genderfluid/15/Pan/poly)