When I came out it was at a Christmas party with friends in August. As it happens at every house party with my friends and me, we ended up in the kitchen and got emotional and sentimental. One of my friends suddenly asked me if she could ask me one question and I agreed. The question was: Boys or girls? I said, “Girls,” and nobody was surprised and everything was fine. The only thing they wanted to know was if I was dating someone at the moment. (Non-binary/21/Lesbian)
Story #2155
When I came out it was the other day, and 𝐈 wasn’t even the one to do it. I was laying on the ground in drama class the other day when I heard my preferred name being used in answer to one of the teacher’s questions as to who was doing which role. When the teacher asked who they were, one of my friends replied with: “Oh, that’s *deadname*’s preferred name!” I was scared when I heard this as many kids in my school were transphobic until I heard my teacher ask me which pronouns I use ! She was really supportive, though I am still mad at my friend for outing me 🙁 (Non-binary/agender/12/Pan/demi)
Story #2138
When I came out to my sister I prepared a piece of paper with everything I wanted to tell to her about me and read it out loud. She was very accepting about both, that I‘m bisexual and that I‘m genderqueer. I gave her the chance to ask questions and named a few sources about both subjects. (NB/19/Bi)
Story #2116
When I came out it was because I was bi. I told my mom, my counselor, and my best friend, then some of my other friends. Next year though I started questioning my gender and I thought I was a demigirl, so I told people that. But calling myself demigirl didn’t feel right either, so I was floating in the area of “uh I have no idea what the heck I am” so I eventually settled on nonbinary. I’ve told my mom and I’m planning on coming out in the other areas of my life. (NB/Bi)
Story #2115
When I came out to my mum I was 13 and told her I had a girlfriend. Her reaction was nothing and just said “okay” and left. Two years later I’m single, non-binary, and a lesbian and my mum doesn’t like that I want to change my name and don’t want a gender. My auntie on the other hand is a fellow lesbian and she supports me. My father, well, I have no idea what he thinks. (Non-binary/14)
Story #2089
When I came out I came out to my friends first, and they were all accepting and it was amazing, I’ve never come out to my parents but have been outed multiple times from them going through my phone. The most recent time they sent me to a Christian counselor to “fix” me and it hurts a lot because I want to be myself around them, and my mom always said she’d accept me no matter what, but she always gets upset when she finds out “I’m still confused.” I’m not confused, I’m Non-binary Panromantic Demisexual and proud about it, but I wish I had my parents’ support. My friends help me a lot though. (Non-binary/15/Panromantic Demisexual)
Story #2086
When I came out, it was 2 years ago and I was at a sleepover with my 3 friends. They were all really supportive and one of them even came out as bi right after me. It felt amazing knowing that I wasn’t alone. Since then, that friend has realized she is a lesbian, one of my other friends came out as asexual, and I have come out to both of them as genderfluid. My third friend, however, is in an amazing relationship with her boyfriend. We all value and support each other, and I feel blessed to have friends that accept me. I still haven’t come out to my parents about any of it, so I live and deal with anxiety and depression, but things will get better. (Genderfluid/non-binary/14/Bisexual)
Story #2085
When I came out in terms of sexuality, it was right after my sister, who’s pan, had come out to me. I told her that I didn’t think I was straight either and I had a crush on a girl, but I never officially told my parents my sexuality. I told my mom I was non-binary as I was going to bed one night, and she was pretty accepting and told my dad for me. I told my sister myself, and she was amazing and supportive. But my parents didn’t really use my preferred name or pronouns at all until a month or so later, when they found out I was struggling with severe depression and anxiety. Then they suddenly became a lot better about it. (Non-Binary/13/Bi/pan)
Story #2082
When I came out to my best friend today, I sent her a TikTok. It basically said the person who sent you this is non-binary. I was on FaceTime with her when I sent it and she didn’t seemed too surprised and was super accepting. I told her that I was scared to tell her and she told me to never be scared to tell her anything. She asked me if I was happy and I said yes. She said that’s all that matters. I love her so much. ❤️ (Non-binary/15/Bi)
Story #2069
When I came out to my mum about a month and a half ago, she was a bit non-accepting at first and said, “As far as I know, you’re a girl.” That made me sad and disappointed. Later on she came into my room and asked me what was wrong, and I just told her that I thought she doesn’t accept me, but she said she does, which made me really happy. I was too scared to tell my dad and I didn’t want to tell him, but my mum said that he deserved it; she told him that night and he accepted me. Both of my parents knew what non-binary was because I have a non-binary friend and had to explain what it means. All of my friends know and they all support me, and I’m glad I have such great friends and such amazing parents. (Non-binary/15/Pan)