When I came out, it was a year ago to my best friend. I said, “ok, I’m bi but minus the guy.” It was so much easier than saying I am a lesbian. We chatted for three hours about it and she helped give me confidence. A few months later I told my family…. Boy, I wish I hadn’t done that. My dad accepted me but kept teasing me about it, and my mother said it would be best if I didn’t tell anyone and that who you love changes over time. It was really difficult time, but my mum has her reasons for not being too pleased. Anyway, from now on I try and help people I know with being honest about their sexuality and identity! (F/15/Lesbian question asexual)
Story #2323
When I came out I was 25 years old and had just broke up with what was to be my last boyfriend (I tried so hard to be straight for so long). I had just felt so unhappy that one day I had a conversation with myself: “You’re not happy and you could be. I’m gay.” A week later I came out to friends and family and haven’t looked back. (F/30/Gay/lesbian)
Story #2275
When I came out it was at first to a couple friends, who all took it well (though I had to come out twice to one of them because he thought I was joking for some reason). After I came out to my sister, who has threatened to tell my parents a couple of times, but I think she’s forgotten now based on the way she acts. I came out to my form by WhatsApp in June (pride month 🏳️🌈) and everyone that responded took it well, but I know that some who didn’t see it would’ve definitely been really REALLY homophobic. I recently found out who my English teacher will be this year and she is friends with my parents and it’d be ABSOLUTELY AWFUL if she found out and told them. (F/Lesbian)
Story #2274
When I came out about questioning my gender, I was having a kinda intimate conversation with two friends (pan guy A and cishet guy C). They already knew I’m a lesbian, but now also that I’m demisexual and somewhere between girl and agender. I’m not sure yet about my gender but I’m okay with that. Paradoxically, I’m more okay with “feminine” things like wearing skirts since I know that. A understood me exactly because his trans boyfriend had similar experiences, C was confused but supportive. (Demigirl?/20/Demi lesbian)
Story #2271
When I came out to my parents as gay, they just sat there in silence. There was no words of love, or acceptance, or validation. If you had a similar experience, I want you to know that you are loved, valid, and accepted. (Non-binary/Lesbian)
Story #2269
When I came out the first time was last year in summer. I texted my friends that I’m bisexual because I was too nervous to say it. But they accepted me and said that they will always love me. Then one friend told me that she’s a lesbian and we began to be a couple. After seven months I told my mom and she said something like “just a phase” and “you’re too young to know” and it was not very good for my mental health. In March I came out to friends as a nonbinary lesbian (trixic, but everyone understands lesbian) and they were very supportive and lovely to me. In June, my dad random said that he will not be getting grandchildren and I was like, “Why?” and he was like, “Bro I always knew you only liked girls,” so he accepted and was very nice to me. (Nonbinary/genderfluid/14/Lesbian/trixic)
Story #2268
When I came out to my best friend about how I was lesbian, she supported me the whole way, and in a couple days I’m going to come out to my family. I hope it goes well. 🤞(F/11/Lesbian)
Story #2264
When I came out, Friend 1 blurted out that she was bisexual, which caused a chain reaction where me and Friend 2 said we were bisexual. Me and Friend 1 changed to be pansexual, and Friend 2 said she was lesbian. Friend 3 was genderfluid and pansexual. Friend 3 and Friend 2 started dating, so Friend 2 became pansexual as well. Friend 3 then said they were non-binary. I came out as lesbian. Friend 4 is straight but an ally. Friend 5 is bisexual. None of us are out to anyone else except each other! ❤️️🧡💛💚💙 (F/13/Lesbian)
Story #2255
When I came out it was multiple times. First I told a couple of close friends and people that I trusted, and they were pretty much all very accepting, which is good. Only one of my friends that I’m out to is also LGBT+ so we chat about things related to that lots. My most recent coming out was earlier today: I was thinking about coming out to my form (class) at school and I typed up a message to the group chat, but then I changed my mind and accidentally pressed send rather than delete and I basically freaked out and left. No one has send anything yet so I’ll have to see how that goes. Happy pride month! 🏳️🌈 (F/12/Lesbian)
Story #2249
When I came out my dad and stepmom were super accepting, but my dad didn’t quite understand what being bigender is. But I was scared to tell my mom for months, and then I did and she said she just wants me to be happy and she bought me a pride flag! The majority of my friends are LGBTQ+ so I just casually told them and they were all accepting. I haven’t told my parents I’m asexual yet, because I think they’ll say I’m too young to know or that I haven’t even slept with anyone yet so how would I know. (Bigender [she/they]/11/Lesbian/asexual)