When I came out, I came out to my old friend who had moved away over text, when I was eleven. I came out to her only as ace not les but I want to. I still have not come out to my parents even though that was many years ago. I also might come out to some of my other friends on national coming out day, which is not too far away. (F/Ace/lesbian)
Story #2385
When I came out I was 13. I texted my friend, telling him that I was gay, and I remember just hoping and praying for a good reaction because I was drowning in internalized homophobia and just wanted someone to tell me it was okay. Now I’m out to a total of 5 people and will be out to my parents soon. (Gender non-conforming woman/15/Gay/lesbian)
Story #2381
When I came out everything crashed. This summer my mom sent me to my grandmother’s house and renovated my room. She found my diary and looked through it, (surprise, surprise) finding out I had a girlfriend. She confronted me about it, and told me she loved me (didn’t say “for who I was”) and says I need to give her my phone password because she won’t snoop again. (F/16/Lesbian)
Story #2374
When I came out it took several tries. First, it started with me, then my friends, then my family. It took years for me to be able to be where I am and be comfortable with myself. It took many, many long talks, tears, and hard, difficult days and nights for me to be my true self with the people I care for. Now I am living my best life and am happier than I ever was, knowing that I truly love myself for myself. (F/31/Lesbian)
Story #2372
When I came out I was a nervous wreck! I couldn’t sleep as I felt I was ready to tell them. So I got up around 11pm and walked up to them. I came out to my close sister the same day that I came out to my mum and dad. I told dad first. I said due to my past I’m gay. And dad said as long as I was happy, and mum said she already knew!!! So I all told my mum’s mum and I didn’t have a very good reaction out of her. She said I was too young to know, which wasn’t true, but I told her again and she accepted me. (F/15/Lesbian/gay)
Story #2361
When I came out I was 13. It was in school and we just had break, so a kid that was with me in class wanted to show me an edit he made, so I watched the edit, and it was simple, it just said:
you are gay
So I said,
“Yeah, I know.”
Then he asked if I’m really a lesbian and it goes on you know. After class I text my friends and tell the story. They are shocked and ask why I said it through text. I didn’t know it was that big of a deal because EVERYBODY around me was trans, bi, gay, demi, you know, so yeah that’s pretty much it 🙂 (F/13/Lesbian)
Story #2350
When I came out it was to my sister, first as ace and then as a lesbian. She was a little confused but asked questions and was really supportive. I haven’t told anyone else yet but I do want to tell my parents, only I’m not sure how my Dad will react. He has been a little homophobic in the past. (F/16/Lesbian/ace)
Story #2348
When I came out, I was 18 and showering. My mom came in and asked whether I was interested in any boys at my school. I said no, which was true. Then she asked if there were any girls I liked. I didn’t expect the question and I was nervous so I said: maybe. I had a crush on a girl but I didn’t want to tell her so I wasn’t completely honest. It was more uncomfortable since I was under the shower and naked. Even though I didn’t fully come out, ever since this conversation my mom always talks about future husbands AND wives. That makes me happy. (Genderfluid/18/Lesbian)
Story #2345
When I came out to my friends as bisexual (I’m not anymore), it was in the major wave of Covid-19, so I had to do most of it over email, which made it really hard for me to tell anyone in person. Now I talk to my close friends (one is bisexual, the other is genderfluid/aro-ace) freely about my sexuality and gender and feel much more comfortable in my skin. Recently I have been going through a sort of gender crisis and use they/them pronouns, and my friends have been amazing, but I’m terrified to tell my parents. I think they’re catching on, but I’m not ready to tell them yet, regardless of how much I hate being misgendered by them. (Agender/13/Lesbian)
Story #2338
When I came out, my mother was just like, “ok I will respect you” and told me she is pan. My father said ok and made a few dad jokes. My friends were already out to me and me to them that was just I mentioned a crush used she/her pronouns. This one kid deadnamed me and my sister made fun of it/its pronouns but aside from that it was good. Mother even asked about transition (not yet). (Non-binary/Lesbian/neptunic)