Lesbian Coming Out Stories

When I came out, life was terribly hard. I told my parents I was lesbian and they completely did not like it. They’ll purposely talk bad about me and I felt heartbroken. My best friend outed me after she discovered my journal and exposed me. Now, everyday and everywhere, I feel like I don’t belong and it just makes me feel sad. The only one who accepted me was my older brother who lives four hours away. But, two more years and I’ll be able to move away and enjoy being me. (F/16/Lesbian)

When I came out to my best friend I was so afraid because she is a very strong homophobic. I came out over text not wanting to see her disgusted face if I told her in person. She texted back and told me she loves and supports me and I cried lol I love her so much ❤️❤️ She’s also now figuring out her own identity as an asexual 💜💜 (F/Lesbian)

When I came out I was 15 and terrified. I realized I liked girls somewhere around sixth grade, and I just couldn’t tell my mom. We were really close because I’m an only child and my dad left when I was two. In my freshman year of high school, I knew I had to tell her because it was impacting our relationship, and killing me to be keeping something from her. I just told her my crush’s name the next time she asked and she said, “I know, hon, it’s fine. What do you think of my boyfriend?” Her boyfriend is the best, and trust me, it does get better! (F/18/Lesbian)

When I came out, it was around the mid 2000s, possibly 2004 or 2005, but I didn’t have a clue about what the LGBTQ was and I was diagnosed with anxiety issues and whatnot. I told my therapist first and she was fairly supportive and even encouraged me to tell my parents. I mustered up the courage to tell my parents at dinner that night, and my parents smiled and told me I will be loved no matter what I am. I was proud and nowadays I even thank my therapist, who sadly died in 2021 due to cancer. I got married in 2017 with a beautiful wife – who is trans and bi – and we live happily with our two-month-old twins and rowdy golden retriever. (F/34/Lesbian)

When I came out we were at a family gathering, and my uncle then came up with the topic of love and asked me if I had a boyfriend yet. I just shook my head and told him and the rest of my family that I didn’t even want to have a boyfriend and that I was lesbian. My family was really supportive and my cousin (15M) even unexpectedly came out with me as bi. (F/17/Lesbian)

When I came out, it was to my grandmother first. We have a close relationship, but we don’t usually talk about very personal or emotional stuff. I think that’s why I chose to come out to her — regardless of her emotions, I knew she would probably say something pretty neutral and give me a pat on the back, which is exactly what I needed. Coming out to her gave me the confidence to just stop trying to hide it. I love her so much. (F/Lesbian)

When I came out, it was pretty unplanned. I went out for dinner with my mom and brother, and we were just talking while waiting for our food to arrive when somehow the topic of dating came up. I told them that boys are disgusting and I didn’t want a boyfriend, and then my mom asked if I wanted a girlfriend instead. I took a deep breath, and said yes, and told them I am lesbian. Hopefully I will come out to my dad soon but I have no idea what his reaction will be. Good luck to y’all closeted people( if you’re planning to come out)! (F/11/Lesbian)

When I came out, I was 18, and my parents just laughed and said they suspected it when I started dressing a bit masculine when I was 10. I’m loved and accepted by my friends and family. (F/24/Lesbian)

When I came out a year ago, I was with my girlfriend for 9 months. I love her. I’ve been feminine my whole life, so my mom didn’t really “expect” it. Anyways, I got pretty good reactions. My girlfriend did too, but everyone expected her to be gay since she presents more masculine. I am still active at church. I pray to god. I live life to the fullest. (F/12/Lesbian)